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Just for the record, I have commented on poly tattoos before and only said that I liked them. I guess I assumed the compliment would imply I knew what it meant, and I didn't necessarily want to broadcast their (or my) status to the entire restaurant.

Oh yeah, she was a classic blonde bimbo stereotype, but she had spunk and I can respect that. No, family friendly is probably about as far as you can get from GOT. Unless your family is friendly towards rape, murder, torture, slavery, debauchery of all kinds, and some good ol' incest for good...

I look at it like a spectrum, with "I can't do monogamous relationships" on one end and "I can't do non-monogamous relationships" and most people falling somewhere in between. So "poly people" can't do mono relationships, and "mono people" can't do poly relationships, but lots of people are...

Another Whovian girl here. I have an infuser too, and a blanket, t-shirt, phone case, phone skin... uhm. I think that's it I was a big fan of David Tennant, but Matt Smith was dear to me as well. I really like Rose's spunk, but the Amy and Rory story was fantastic, especially with River Song...

You keep telling us what he "think" and "believes." You're leaving out "He SAID he thinks" and "He SAID he believes." There's a difference. You don't know wha the thinks and believes, only what he tells you. His actions don't match his words. A shallow person can't have deep relationships, and...

Cheating is not cool, at all. Before you even think about seeing this woman again, you owe it to your partner to either break-up or have a talk about polyamory. Until you do that, there's no point contemplating dating conference woman. It's not fair to your partner to keep her in the dark...

I sounds like what you had with your friend was very special and beautiful. Are you attached to the idea that you and your boyfriend will have to date the same woman, or are you open to dating separately? I ask because what you had with your friend was a rare and blessed gift. It usually only...

This whole thing is just screaming red flags. I can't actually see what's in it for you, like at all. Everything you described in the first post sounds like he's throwing you crumbs and you're lapping them up. You need to respect yourself more than that. The second post just sounds like he...

I'm not sure Writer's the one with codependency issues. He strikes me more as needy and manipulative. branches, you're the one who's letting your needs be steam rolled just so Writer doesn't have to inconvenience himself by working on issues that he doesn't even admit are problems. He's...

Ignore them. There's a minority of self-proclaimed poly police around here, but they don't know what they're talking about. The only thing you need to identify as polyamorous is a feeling that you identify as polyamorous. You clearly resonate with the label, and as far as I'm concerned, that's...

Good point. One of my reactions to this thread was: why does it have to be dysfunctional if two people want to be two halves of a whole? It's not how I personally prefer my relationships, but then neither is monogamy, so what does that matter? There are plenty of perfectly happy couples who see...

My first thought is a glaring but common misunderstanding of the definition of introvert. Introversion/Extroversion simply refers to the effect that being around people has on your energy levels. Introverts need alone time to recharge their batteries and being with people drains them. Extroverts...

I don't think I realized you were all living together. That's going to make it mighty hard for her to play the infidelity card... how does she propose to explain how you were living there and sleeping with her husband without her knowledge? If she consented to it, then infidelitous or not, it's...

Geeze Louise, why would you tell the parents anything at this point? What's that going to accomplish? The time to inform parents of polyamorous relationships is when they're rosy good, when you can show them how happy everyone is and how well all the metas get along. At this point, anything you...

I wouldn't fret. Occasional confusion about what you want out of life is part of being human. Even if nothing changes, it's good to go through the process of learning how you would go about it if it did. Personal growth and all that. And I see nothing wrong with asking a forum of experienced...

Exactly. My spouse isn't on okc either, and my partner who is on okc would most likely list her husband as her "partner." We're already cross-linked via our profiles, which serves the not-cheating purpose just fine. Okc has totally geared it towards hierarchical, one-primary-only type...

I find the best way to find someone who's interested in a certain activity is to do that activity on your own or in a meetup group, and look within the other people you find doing that activity. If you want to find someone who's into hiking, go for a hike, or post a want-ad on Craigslist or...

There's a feedback form. Just Google "okcupid feedback" and you should be able to track it down. I wrote them a complaint, hopefully others do too, if only on principle. They're pretty good at responding to user feedback, once they know what we actually want.

Nice try, but you guys dropped the ball. I got the email from OKC today: Other half? Sigh. You guys clearly missed the whole point of polyamory. Just to confirm, I went through the motions. There's no way to put in more than one name. It's clearly meant for couples who date as a unit, not...

Yeah, thanks for nothing OKC. It's only for one partner. I haven't seen the feature yet where the couple can search for partners together, that isn't explained by OKC but inferred in the article. My understanding was that it's more so you can be more upfront about your status. As we've been...