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Not really wanting to get into a pissing contest over who said what, and ready to admit I haven't read all of your blog through, this comment by Violet stood up for me: "And frankly, I'm a god damn stripper. Manipulation and lying is in my job description." (Sorry, I don't know how to quote...

All the more reason I think you should not give up on this issue. I'm wondering if this part of the reason why their marriage is on the rocks. I assume you mean D/s boundaries, not poly boundaries? How is your relationship with Eve? I assume you are not a triad, but rather you are dating...

Waking up today I could see immediately that something was bothering Vanilla, and after a bit of probing I learned that she wasn't satisfied by our sex life. Turns out she prefers three-hour-fuck-your-brains-out-sessions twice a week to quickies every other day. I've tried to initiate sex every...

My ex used to call me every day after our break and just chat chat chat about his life, mainly involving things and plans we had broken up about. I couldn't even say it on the phone but had to text him afterwards that I didn't want to talk to him about inconsequential things, that it hurt too...

When the worst of baby feaver gets me, I cuddle the Cat as if he were a baby. Maybe you could dog-sit, or go for a massage?

I'm proud of you for having made a decision on the Davis case! Love reading your blog, as always.

Nine months, has it really been so long? All the best to you all!

You are turning into a regular sex fiend, girl ;)!

Thanks for posting! Initial thoughts: if you are feeling more of a connection with Drew instead of Aurora, you need to be upfront about it. Triads are rife with disappointment and frustration exactly because people expect everyone to love and like each other equally. I think there's lot of...

Thanks for posting! A few clarificatory questions are in order: When your wife says she can live with poly, what exactly does that mean? Is she mono herself? Is she willing to tolerate it rather than lose you, or does she see it enhancing her own life in any way? Is she interested either in J or...

Two plus one Not dating per se, since they are still basically monogamous with his wife. But we keep in touch intermittently and I do feel very refreshed and loved after talking to him, no matter how rarely that happens. Likewise! Just wanted to muse how after the threesome I felt very...

New Year, new posting So it's been awhile. At some point last year I just sort of dropped out of the forum - maybe I was becoming too engrossed with stuff here and it was emotional exhaustion with yet another story of hurt feelings and frustrations and people behaving badly. At least partly I...

Hey, what's wrong with cows? Yeah, mostly different perspective. It's interesting to hear people relaxed and chatting about the "other" group when they think everyone listening is one of "them". And I think it's increased my compassion all around, too, for different perspectives. Let's moo away...

Sadly, I think it's only available in Finnish. I'll try to recap, though :).

Steal away! I'll post more once I find the time to really articulate all the thoughts I've been having around his text. In the meanwhile, a small revelation: my recent difficulties with the whole libido thing are not so much disinterest in sex per se, but rather specifically about me not...

Hmm. Interesting topic. I hope I don't come off as sounding superior, but I do feel privileged. I think there's a definite privilege in belonging to a minority, especially if you are also able to pass with the mainstream people as one of them. I feel privileged being a woman, bisexual, poly...

Dangerous relationship myths, pt. 1 As promised, I have seriously started to study this relationship-y stuff with Mr. Pekka Hämäläinen, who has extensive experience as a couple's and family therapist and whose written a book Hyvä parisuhde (A Good Relationship), beginning with listing the most...

Of course I was! I live on validation! Yep, August 2013 it is. The organizing (location reservations etc.) will take at least a year, and the month is pretty important for me. Plus, we are now focusing on moving into our new apt (complete with TWO SEPARATE rooms! I long for the days when there...

I am curious as to how you came to meet and marry your wife. Was it one of those marriages of convenience, where she'd get a work permit and you'd get a child? Did you enter into the marriage thinking there would normal physical intimacy between the two of you? Have you been to couple's...

Random musings 1) Vanilla asked me what would be the worst thing that could happen in our relationship. I didn't have to think twice - violence or threat of violence would make it impossible for us to live together. She pondered it for a while and said that me suddenly turning secretive...