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Welcome! I don't know how to quote with a smartphone, but I personally hate being the mailbox between two loved ones. It leads to nothing but misunderstandings.

To answer my own question: Yes, IF A the person afflicted has not sought any treatment or kept up with treatment in the last year B us being together and/or being poly has for the last two years objectively made them worse C if their condition is very similar to mine, involves a lot of mood...

back to bedlam My stubborn refusal to deal landed me here three weeks ago, but it was for the better. Now they tell me I'm too well for a closed ward, so I might look at going home in two weeks! Thankyou everyone whose commented or Pmed me. I will answer when I get better. And I do remember...

Finally progress! I am so happy with myself for making a decision that I feel genuinely good about. I've decided to quit the blame-everyone-else-for-your-troubles -game for now. Instead, I have my first AA meeting tomorrow. I hope I get up the courage to go. I have read a lot of the literature...

This was unfortunately exactly the type of group this cheating disaster has affected. All female particpants are part of the pow-wow (not an actual pow-wow btw, hadn't thought it might be offensive to Native American people o_0). You are so right as always. I joined a self-help group for...

So everyone's in a crisis right now. Also, people seem to think I am the expert on what has been going on for the last two years. Everyone is very interested in hearing my perspective on things. Now that I now longer wish to share that perspective, they are all turning to Flattie to hear "her...

So once Flattie had confided to me that she had managed to convince the hubs that he was better off without the wife, I felt I needed to intervene. I felt it was unfair to let a plot I had seen hatching in front of my eyes for two years, ONE I had actively encouraged by saying stuff like "Love...

Some background on the situation now My friend Flattie has been after a married man for two years now. She got out of one relationship, which had lasted for five years and was her first one, to be with this man. She wanted to platonic life partners, since the man was still involved with the...

The mandatory I've given up on poly post I don't go out much unless I absolutely have to, don't like to go to see friends, either. A poly/cheating disaster just blew up in my circle of closest friends, and has cost me at leat one best friend and possibly also the support of that spiritual group...

You are not treating me in a loving way. And haven't for a while. Every month or two, somebody new walzes in to the picture, and you throw our lives completely upside down to accommondate the newest guy you just can't live without. As to your new fiance, I told you that if you bedded him, I am...

I'm alive My spirit's on fire, aa-aa, uu, I'm alive... ahem. :o And I've moved out, as you can see. There is nothing wrong with me, and I've let Vanille know that. She wants to marry someone else, and to me, that is the end of our engagement.

PERSONAL: An Isle of Tranquility among Storming Seas First things go first: Vanilla was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Weehee! I'm so relieved to know that the underlying issue isn't 1) me 2) her 3) us no good. I've been reading up as much on BLPD as I can. Turns out it's not...

Oh wow, I had a completely different face I was thinking about. The full article paints a lot more sympathetic pciture, tbh. The only reason why I even know his name is an article I read years back on Jane Fonda where she described Ted as the "love of her life" but went on to say that it was...

GENERAL: Why the provision of mental health treatment needs to change From Community Psychology: In Pursuit of Liberation and Well-being, pp. 10 - 11: "The Ontario Health Supplement conducted in 1991 found that in a representative sample of adults in Ontario (close to 10,000 respondents) the...

Cool! The only porn I've ever really been exposed to has been the ultra-pretty people who don't sweat and some heavy BDSM stuff Vanilla enjoys (sperm in the eyes!?! WTF), so I haven't really developed a taste for anything so far.

Thank you, Tonberry. And the bumping comment wasn't meant to refer to aros only. A-romantic people, as said, do not experience romantic attractions to other people. Fictional depictions of aromantic people include Sherlock Holmes, Dexter and arguably, Doctor Who. Of course in these pop culture...

The OP probably isn't with us anymore, and most people probably know this already, but I wanted to say it anyway (it keeps me distracted from what I should be doing, which is reason enough): There's nothing bad about fearing commitment, or not wanting to commit to a partner, if that's what...

There is nothing in the original post to suggest that the wife/girlfriend are bi and interested or into a BDSM dynamic. While it's a thought, triad experimentation can go completely haywire. I see a lot of people (not saying you in particular, since you seem to have a whole different dynamic...

Now you made me crave some crackers :eek:!!!11 A good thought. I think I mostly enjoy the aesthetics too much to really get turned on. Like, I have a problem imaging super-pretty people have sex. And all the porn I watch is about blindingly beautiful Eastern European women with long hair and...

I'm just thinking about what to do if there are explosive break-ups. Or if an STD spreads super-quickly in the community (I guess it would actually be easier to trace and contain). And how to protect everyone's privacy. Some people I know seem to get some weird satisfaction from knowing (both in...