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I know. Maybe I'm unwilling to give him the benefit of the doubt because I suspect he's had quite a bit of cosmetic surgery and I am prejudiced against people who've had extensive work done on their face. It just makes them look insincere to me :eek:.

Does your wife have any other people in her life she enjoys intimacy with? I'm not talking about sexual intimacy here, but the pure content feeling of being close to someone and happy about that. If so, that might help her appreaciate that she is not in any way redundant and deficient - that she...

I don't know anyone whose kept their nipple piercings on for more than a few years. They either get infected, close or the wearer gets bored of them. From what I understand, they are among the most likely type of piercing to develop infections, but there are probably ways to reduce the risk...

Did it and liked it. Also understand why you didn't ask people to define their relationships in any great detail. Future survey-takers be forewarned, the survey is quite theorhetical.

Talking about using people the cater to your insecurities! I bet it was edited a lot, but it sounds really bad. I hope all four are happy to be stand-ins for each other.

Aww, so cute, thanks! I had this girl I went to on a few dates with. I had stalked her online for a year and absolutely loved her politics, her writing, her appereance etc. Then I realized she was not a very interesting person after all, after talking to her a few times. I had an online...

Umh, not unless you want to start a blog on your journey into poly vis-a-vis Elfquest! Otherwise, I think this either Fireplace material, or possibly General Polyamory Discussion if you want to especially focus on the poly aspects of EQ. I stumbled upon EQ very early on in my life, and while I...

PERSONAL: Random I'm eating cheese crackers with chopsticks. I read somewhere that if you use chopsticks to pick up the crackers from the bag, you won't eat too many. Too bad I'm good with chopsticks. I also invested in some porn yesterday on my campaign "I want to want more"! It was okay, a...

For me, the essence of compromise is its temporal nature. Compromises are not for life; at most, they can be "for now". Compromise is something you work out to reach a specific temporary goal. The goal can be increased relationship security, rebuilding trust, having a baby, getting a divorce...

GENERAL: Continued 7) If it's always one partner who desires less than the other, should they still agree to sex sometimes? You should never do anything that feels unpleasant. If you engage in sexual interaction you don't like, it only serves to further kill the desire. If you only subject...

I'm just starting to grasp how interconnected you all are. Don't you ever just get the urge to date someone from, say, Madagaskar, to avoid all this weird community crisscrossing of relationships and baggage?

I've been thinking a lot about the different grades of attraction there is, or more like that not everything is purely sexual attraction. I can feel very passionate about someone's writing and opinions and arguments, and then when I see them, they are okay. Nice, but don't make me feel any...

We are considering baby-making right now. The one candidate we have approached to make this happen with us lives very far away, so our baby-making attempts should be timed PERFECTLY. As if there wasn't enough stress as it is :D. (Oh, and when I say right now, it means that the potential baby...

Consider this your free hug coming up.

If you want to take this to PM, please do. I don't want to participate in public online discussions which further seek to marginalize and demonize an already marginalized and demonized population.

GENERAL: Yes, no, maybe? (translation) Written by Mia Hemming, guest expert Leena Väisälä (gyneacologist, clinical sexologist, Bayer Inc), published in the Finnish magazine Hyvä Terveys (Good Health), issue 14/2011, pp. 58 - 59 (translation unauthorized and all mine) Sex is everywhere - expect...

All work no play I haven't read my blog through. I suppose it would be fun and frustrating, but I don't feel like it's time for self-reflection quite now. I recently asked a dear loving friend to read this blog. He did and commented on some parts. Vanilla has also commented that I only...

Hey hun, I hope you don't mind me calling you that. Just wanted to offer a cheers up: the risk of you having caught HIV is abysmally low while using condoms correctly. Even without protection and being the receptive partner in anal intercourse (the riskiest activity by far) runs the risk of...

I feel this discussion could well benefit from a more sympathetic view of asexuality. Sexual therapists and sexologists have, since the inception of the discipline in the early 1900's, operated from a very sex-normative worldview. This is not how most people perhaps ever have viewed sex, in our...

The soon-to-be-ex wife IDs as asexual. As I understood the story, she was so low on feeling loved and appreciated that she sought out this sexual relationship, which she didn't really want (being asexual) to get some of the feelings back. And the soon-to-be-ex hubs felt that if he hadn't...