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I would say happy b-day, but that wouldn't fit the mood really :(. Are you and Beloved now over-over? Nothing to salvage? No couple's counseling, no nothing?

Yup. The only real differences are that civil partners can't adopt from outside the family and can't have a shared last name. Oh yes, and the stupid signing thing :). 5 months. But hey, the wedding will take place summer 2013 the earliest :o.

You mean, like, fists :eek:? Oh yeah, I didn't mean to hijack Annabel's blog. All the major issues have been decided, like the location, theme, dresses, guest list etc. But definitely not happening next summer, since there's no time. Actually, we have one glaring issue still - whether to...

I want a brother wife! You know, to cook for me, and stuff...

How long have you two been together, and how long ago you decided to embark on poly? I thought that yeah, why not give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe this is some individualization on her part going absolutely hay-wire. Why not step back and see what emerges after the dust has settled? If...

Totally true. And I think in general, feelings are acceptable in a relationship. It's the actions and situations we can and should control. PD is short for Personality Disorder. They are deep-set and inflexible modes of behaviour, thought and feeling that are much more prevalent than...

Hullo and welcome! Maybe write her a nice letter? People have asked how to open the lines of communication with an OSO before, but I can't for the life of me come up with a specific tag you could search. "Communication", maybe?

Hello Giles! My first instinct after reading your post is "Walk away. Now. While you still have some of your mental health intact". It's of course easy to say since I am not in your situation, don't know your history or Violet's side of things (Btw, I think you slipped her real name once in...

Woohoo! Me and Vanilla are right in the middle of wedding plan craziness. It's entertaining if nothing else.

I don't know what Sagency was referring to, but that bit stood out to me, too. 1) It sounds controlling and dysfunctional as hell. Your gf would be calling all the shots, setting the stage, the time, and the script. She would be unhappy going along with it because she is unhappy with...

One of the forum moderators, redpepper, went through something similar with her ex-wife - they are still friends, but the relationship as such didn't survive. Which might be very well what you are headed towards. Or not. Is the specific problem that Jean fears she can't compete with a man, or...

Hullo and welcome! Do you self-ID as bi/pansexual? Have you communicated about the change in your feelings with Jean? Seems Jean is okay with the concept of sexual fluidity herself. However, what have those recent trials been about? Are you solid again, or is there some lingering uncertainty...

I just wish to take a break from the relationship-oriented discussion so far and point out something that you've probably realized, something glaringly obvious in your posts. Somebody pursues you even when they've seen your post-pregnancy belly, and you are so grateful and flattered that you...

Ok, visited the ER last night, and her stuff is entirely normal, just badly inflamed and swollen, which makes it look/feel somewhat fierce. It's either yeast or BV, and she's getting treatment for both. I'm taking care of my own itchiness, too. No sex for now, instead we spent a fun and relieved...

The two statements above seem a bit contradictory. I mean, Jared loves you; you are not just someone he vents his sexual frustrations on. How would you then be unrequired, even if his other relationship does heal to a point of a renewed physical intimacy? Your jealousy seems to be pretty...

OMFG I think I just broke Vanilla! Her innards have sort of slipped to peek out from in between her lady parts! I don't know how to really describe it better, I haven't seen it yet. The uneven, sort-of-mooshy tissue at the front of the vagina has moved further down and is now visible at the...

It often seems that once you are not looking for a relationship, or have already found a special someone, dating opportunities start popping up at every corner. A friend of mine is convinced that it's because you reek less of desperation :D. You can self-identify as poly or not and still be with...

Hullo and welcome! Poly/non-monogamy isn't necessarily the solution to having unsatisfying dating experiences in the mono world. Most if not all relationship skills you need for successful poly are the ones you need for a successful relationship, be it mono, open or poly. Is there a common...

Haha, for me, friendship kills all sexual feeling, really. Maybe there's not enough tension? Too much trust and comfort? I don't mean this in a weird way, as if you would always need to feel danger to have great sex. I can't really put my finger on it. Infatuation, maybe? Which is always somehow...

So you have cheated with this other friend? You realize that is bad, right? And you moral haziness revolves around if it's bad continuing sexting with both, or just this one other guy, whom you haven't (yet) slept with? There are differing opinions around whether emotional affairs/sexy talk...