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A few days ago I was reading Norman Fisher on the classical Chinese concept of mind. Norman Fischer is an American poet, writer, and Soto Zen priest, teaching and practicing in the lineage of Shunryu Suzuki. Zen, of course, is the Japanese rendering of Ch'an, which is the original "Zen" in...

This line of inquiry made me wonder if perhaps what we call "gender" is best principally understood, anthropologically, as a set of culturally prescribed rituals in which the ritual traditionally permeates everyday life, rather than just at set moments (e.g., upon the full or new moon, at dawn...

That may be so, but even the current technical meanings of the words "gender" and "sex" (biological) -- as we use them nowadays -- are very new arrivals in history. Whatever folks called them in the long ago, there were boys and girls, men and women (and perhaps something in between) long...

Where I live violence directed at LGBTQ people appears to be extremely uncommon. And nationwide, it appears that violence directed at gay, lesbian and bisexual people is not all that common anymore. At least not nearly as common as it once was. I hear that trans folks are somewhat commonly...

The bare minimum I require for there to be arousal and pleasure in sex is some degree of trust and some level of feeling of what I want to call "genuine human connection and/or affection". For me, if these are not present, I may as well masturbate instead of involving another human being, as...

I have no idea why it would become so heated and problematic! Both LGBTQ (etc.) folks and poly folks are discriminated against and treated badly / unkindly / unfairly by some others. Thus making a comparison of kind is absolutely logically consistent, factual and practical. Is it the comparison...

It seems to me that whether polyamory is a relationship model choice or something closer to an "orientation" or "identity" would only be a problematic or difficult question (discussion) where there is the presence of a strong social taboo in deviating from a supposed norm -- which, sadly, is the...

I'm reading.... Haven't had much to say, but reading with interest and gratitude for what everyone has been offering here. Some of the responses have been especially illuminating! Thanks! By the way, I'm also curious to know what folks here might say in response to the following question...

Thanks for those wonderful, useful responses! I'm digesting. It's been a weird, challenging day for me. I'll eventually reply more … adequately.

Sacred Casual Sex an article https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/02/sacred-casual-sex/

Actually, a man I'm 'dating' (the only one who is not my partner) just yesterday invited me to meet his wife for lunch when they're in town sometime on a Sunday. This is a fella I've only spent face-to-face time with on two occasions, so it's not like "Meet The Family" time, per se. Just a...

Thanks Vinsanity. I didn't click on it. I assumed it would be porn, due to the source.

Post # 8 here links to Pornhub. I did not click on the link, but it's probably a violation of the rules to post it.

What Is Gender Identity? The elusive true gender self https://arcdigital.media/what-is-gender-identity-10ce0da71999

For at least half of my now long life (I'm in my early fifties) I've been saying, on occasion, that I'm "inwardly androgynous," by which I have meant that while I wear guy clothing and eschew makeup and high heals … and otherwise appear as 'masculine', I feel about equal portions 'masculine' and...

A thread for thinking out loud about gender.

Okay, that didn't generate any responses. So let me try it this way... Are there any women in this forum who have experienced pain during sex which was not the result of a strictly physical cause (which had a strong psychological dimension)? If yes, would you be willing to share with us about...

This got me to wondering if I'd have trouble sleeping when not in the same bed with a loved one. For the last twenty plus years, on almost every night of these decades, I have slept beside my sweetheart. We are alternatingly cuddling this way and then that through the night. Almost always...

I found this. https://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/When-Sex-Is-Painful Nevertheless, conversation with real people is, for me, often equally helpful as consultation with "the literature". Personal stories and experiences are often the road to insight.

I have a new friend, a woman, who revealed to me that (a) she's had sex only a very few times, and (b) every time has been very painful. I'd like to tell you the contex in which this revelation occurred, but for her privacy I'll have to keep mum on that. Let's just say that she shared this...