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"The American Poem," Ep. 12: Denise Levertov's "Caedmon" https://youtu.be/TN4mGerSxN8

This one is mine, written today (likely still in process). It speaks to one of multiple, contrasting internal voices within me lately. _________________________________________________ Oh, Eros! What have you strewn today? Lemon balm along the trail beside the banana slug. unknown...

... a place to post poems, one's own or another's.

huhmmm. I tend to shy away from most things folks associate with "new age" -- you know, crystal healing, remote chakra balancing, the so-called "law of attraction," reincarnation, channeling.... If there is anything otherworldly mystical in this book (so far -- haven't read much yet), I've not...

Here's a contact improv teacher talking about sharing a common center of gravity in that dance. https://youtu.be/jcrbIdY3HZc As an analogy or metaphor to be employed in C. Inquiry, it can be misleading (no pun intended). In C. Inquiry boundaries are crucially important and merging into "one...

About my phrase "leading the dance"... It's of course an analogy and metaphor, a figurative usage. CI, as I see it, works best when it is supple (suppleness could be on a list of principles). The more supple, the better! Therefore, CI sometimes can be led, at times -- for moments -- but tends...

This is an excellent observation! More often than not, loaded questions -- "A loaded question or complex question fallacy is a question that contains a controversial or unjustified assumption (e.g., a presumption of guilt)" -- are not recognized as such by the questioner. So in CI, part of...

Thanks. I responded to your PM.

Hi LB - I'd be happy to explore the use of collaborative inquiry with you in your inquiry into your sexuality (in general, not orientation per se). I have described collaborative inquiry here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=117810 Very likely, CI would work best in an...

I like words too. This post pretty much cleared things up.: www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=112988 I got the impression from that post that, historically, your self-knowledge about your sexuality has been … shall we say... iffy. As if you only sort of and barely have understood your...

No. Not at all. I was confused when you said "I'm not interested in sleeping with anyone's S.O./wife, with or without the guy there" 'cause that's not something you'd see often in a polyamory forum. I'm still in my gradual morning wakeup routine, so my mind is slower than normal. It took me a...

Thanks for sharing, LB. When I read the part which I quoted, above, I was a little confused. I'm sure I've read a bunch of your posts, but I haven't been in this forum much lately and can't say I really know your story. The machine says you have 480 posts, and my thought was "Is she...

Yeah. That's really missing the concept in a gigantic way. Lots of folks just aren't all that bright, y'know. :cool:

I suspect that women who are grossed out by gay and bi men, like straight men who are similarly grossed out, simply don't know that women are like men in far more ways than they are different. Yes. I said that. Far more alike to men than they are different. You know, two legs, two arms, two...

Just to be clear, in no way was I intending to play Sheriff in this Wild West town. I wasn't proposing that everyone stop offering advice, by any means. Sometimes advice is what's needed and what 'works'. Its up to us all to decide when collaborative inquiry might prove a potentially more...

What your companion is doing in the bedroom with others seems to me to be a realm in which she should be allowed her privacy -- unless your concern is for your health (STDs / STIs). And in the case of STDs, her only obligation to you is to ensure you that she's keeping your safetly in mind in...

Sometimes it works well and is genuinely helpful, especially when the one offering advice is experienced and insightful. Other times what folks get when they ask for advice is worse than useless, because it can't possibly take into account the unspoken details and particulars which the one...

Usually when folks offer advice they are taking sides on an issue or topic, rather than helping the person think and feel things through carefully and deeply, reflectively. But often what folks need is not to have "sides" during their personal inquiry into the topic at hand. In fact...

I think there may be very many strategies for Collaborative Inquiry. Hypothetical adoption of a person's viewpoint -- where it is understood by both parties that it's a kind of thought experiment and not a real adoption of a viewpoint, per se, might be a useful strategy. Perhaps especially when...