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mantianing eye contact is something i find really difficult, even not during sex, can i ask was there anything you did to help be able to do this without it being extreemly uncomfortable, i can for a while and then i feel afraid, im not sure why because logically i know none of my men are...

you don't need to swollow your anger, Anger is as real and as important as any other emotion, i want you to talk to me when you feel angry, i want us to work on that together as a couple and not skip past it to the end but actually work through all together I love you Jools

I have been working very hard, within myself, and with R to move through the feelings of insecurity I have about him starting or having a relationship with another woman. I wanted to make sure that our own relationship felt more solid before there where others introduced to the dynamic of US...

Whereas, when I think of sex I think of... orgasm. Now, don't get me wrong I absolutely love sex, but it feeds a physical want not an emotional need for me. This is often exactly how i am, and your post was really helpful to me simply to know that i am not alone, I think you are really brave...

it sounds like this really has brought you all closer, it was similar for Montianboy when he first started to experiment with poly, he wanted too but he was afraid, and it took actually being with another woman to help him see that he could do this without it affecting how he loved me, so what...

just watched the last episode of season 1, i really hope the make a 2nd :)

I am a person who has had a past of pushing most things to the absolute limit, going down every avenue until the bitter end, not relenting until all of MY questions are answered, and sometimes hurting people in that process. It felt good to think of him first, to love him by consciously putting...

It is really obvious to me that you have a very strong powerful and deep love for Redpepper, From reading what you wrote, I understand that you are happy to be in a poly-fi situation between you, Redpepper and her husband, but that it hurts you to think of her with another man outside, and at...

i don't care ethier, but this is something i have thought about too, i find it intresting that i am challange frequently by others on my poly life/setup. They feel they have some kind of right to judge me becasue what i do is not what is normally done, and yet i would never start judging...

not wanting the partner iv only been seeing one month not to bring another person into our relationship is diffrent to wanting him him home by a certian time of night, but did decide in the end not to put that restriction on him anyway, i was just hoping that the OP might see a diffrent way at...

I had similar issue with my parents. My mum has had an affair in the past, and is now married to the man she had the affair with. I am constantly challenged by her on my poly lifestyle, that I choose to be open about with her, through respect. But when I spoke to her about cheating years ago...

i don't think i was ever in the place where i had those restrictions, so it is hard for me to understand them. i'm more curious as to why that would be needed. Jools

If I am out, I DO check in. I will send a text or make a call so he knows where I am and I tell him what time I expect to be home. However, if I decide that i want to change my plans and spend the night, or if something happens and i'm going to be later, then i simply send a text or call to let...

I don't see any problem with checking in, saying where you are, and what time you think you will be home. That is fair enough. But saying you have to be home by 11:00 pm, and there is no flexibility in this is too restrictive. But that's just how I'd feel. There was nothing to say that the OP's...

Honestly, I think it is disrespectful to the girl he is trying to end things with, and if I were you, that would make me seriously wonder if I wanted to be with him. Jools

I think sometimes I am more committed to my poly lifestyle than I am to any of my partners. Right now, at this time in my life, I am poly and not just in love with more than one person. I choose to go out, date and meet new people. However, that being said, I came to be poly by accidently...

I'm curious why you have these requests. Is it fear for her safety, and you don't want to sit up worrying about her, or is it because you don't like the idea of her spending the night with someone else? Personally, I would actually hate those requests made of me. I usually come home whenever I...

Being poly is different for everyone. It really is a very broad term, so all I can do is tell you what it means for me. It is about making connections and having loving relationships with more than one partner, and all of my partners are free to do the same, in an honest and open way...

i don't see anything wrong for doing something for someone else, as long as it is not something that is harmful to you, that doesn't mean that its not difficult but if its causing you to have a breakdown then its time to have a re-think, i think it also depends on how much he is giving in this...

This thread has been really interesting for me. I deal with emotional and physical pain in a strange way because I have dissociative disorder, which means I disconnect myself. It has only been in recent years that I have been able to feel some kind of emotional or extreme physical pain. Now...