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I really appreciate all the input and advice from everyone. Guess I hadn't given much thought that far ahead. Obviously there is no option of him living with me full time. No option of me being added into his and his wife's home. I know this was not anyone's intentions but now I kinda feel...

I agree, it was good advice. Personally my partner and I don't like the concept of an actual contract within our relationship. We have had many lenghty discussions about the rules and our boundaries but don't feel it necessary to actually write them down or makea formal contract. Contracts in...

No, no typo there apart from it should say up to.. We would literally be on the phone constantly chatting or messaging and barely sleeping, for the first week lol, then We remebered we aren't exactly spring chickens and the lack of sleep was an issue, not for me as I'm an insomniac. The NRE was...

This is a really tough situation you are in. I can fully understand ypur feelings about it. Poly or not cheating is cheating. I think most of us have been cheated on at some point and it hurts. I think the main decisions you need to make are do you still want the relationship with her and can...

Hi Lea. Thanks for the hello

Hi Shaya Thanks for the reply. I have given lots of thought to how his wife will feel, about a lot of things. She is poly too, but has already shown him a little resentment when she learnt that he and I had started the sexual part of our relationship, even though she has 3 partners and is...

Neither of us were actively looking for anything when we met through an old friend of mine, ( She invited me to her 40th birthday, where I met my partner.) So we met physically first, spoke about 20 hours a day for a week...I went back down to visit him, two weeks later he came to see me. It's...

I actually saw this and have read both the pages you linked to. Foind them both very interesting to read.

Thanks for replying. I can really understand where you are coming from, but I feel maybe I haven't made myself very clear, sometimes I struggle with the right words due dyslexia and fibro that affects my memory and useage of the right words. I have had therapy on and off for years, since my...

Thanks for replying. I completely agree that everyones ways of showing this will be different. Being totally new to poly relationships I am trying to understand as much as I can about as many different aspects as i can. Appreciate you taking time to reply

I personally do like some of the symbolism stuff as well. It's nice to feel my partner is proud to be with me, the little things can mean as much to me like when he holds my hand while we are out. My partner has suggested matching rings some time, which I like the idea of. He's also talked...

Yeah.....that tattoos weren't such a good idea lol.

I feel that him saying he doesn't want to ask you to stop your other relationship is suggesting he does want you to but feels it unfair to ask. If he really loves you can he learn to love or at least accept all parts of you- even the poly part? To me if my partner loves me they have to love all...

I personally see handfasting as a little different purely because you can have more than one. I've done the matching tattoo thing, just a small heart with my soon to be ex wifes initial, and she had my intitial. Not such a good tattoo now we are splitting up but not as bad as the one down my...

My partner and I have definitely found a spiritual connection between us which is something I have never known before.

Do you mean things like marriage? Because I agree that's nothing more than a traditional symbol. I also feel that only being allowed one marriage is imposed on us by the populatuon of society that are not poly. To me we should be able to express our love for more than partner however we wish...

I just found this thread and thought I would post. I am 'Jemka' 40 . Currently live in north east of england but trying to move to the Brighton-ish area. I have one male partner and a son. I currently have 3 dogs too. Love craft such as knit, crochet, cross stitch, quilting, jewellery making...

I am curious about an issues that my chronic over thinking mind has brought up. Let me give as brief a description of my situation as i can: I was abused as a child, physically and mentally by a parent and sexually by a family member. I have had 2 marriages. My first a 12 year long to an...

Some great advice!

Breaks up hurt. Sometimes a hell of a lot. Sometimes one person hurts more than the other. I agree you have to allow yourself to grieve for the lost relationship. It does take time and it is never easy. Just because he broke it off with you does not necessarily mean he no longer has feelings for...