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  1. River

    Poly fiction

    I believe it would be possible for the moderators to "merge" all of these threads into a single one.
  2. River

    River's Blog

    Those who haven't read it may be interested in the Dating & Sex thread, wherein I update my situation. www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=117688 Here I am again "dating" (a word always to be placed in scare quotes) a fellow living roughly fifty miles away in Albuquerque. Again, at least...
  3. River

    Poly fiction

    Welcome to polyamory.com Mikejanus. Your question is addressed in this thread: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=74481 I have found the Search function useful before posting a new thread, to be sure that I'm not accidentally creating an already existing thread. On the top bar of...
  4. River

    Dating & Sex

    Thanks for the sensitive, thoughtful words, Vinsanity. It seems like exploring new, potential connections is always a bit tricky, uncertain.... For me, anyway. And for others.... It takes time to get to know one another and build or grow trust. And willingness to open up.... I'm feeling...
  5. River

    Dating & Sex

    I think what he needs -- more likely than not, anyway -- is a reversal of roles. He's been playing the role of caring for a wife who has been going through a lot of emotional turmoil around the near-end of a marriage over her husband's NEED for consensual non-monogamy of the polyamorous...
  6. River

    Dating & Sex

    Well, I've just gotten a response to a text I sent to my other fella, the one I've been talking about here. (I say "my other fella" somewhat lightheartedly, as we're too new to one another to be 'boyfriends,' and yet he's too dear to me to be just some random guy or a mere acquaintance.) He...
  7. River

    Keeping other relationships alive while having a baby?

    I am not a parent myself, so can't speak from experience about your questions. But I will say that if this relationship is very important to you both that there should not be any reason why you can't continue with it. You may, on occasion, have to leave your child in someone else's care so you...
  8. River

    Dating & Sex

    Thanks Maur. :)
  9. River

    Dating & Sex

    So, I sent him a text message after writing the above. I asked if he had received my reply (on Tuesday) to his last email of the same day. Today, of course, is Thursday. In that email I asked about hiking together, saying that next week would be okay if this week ain't gonna happen. Thursday...
  10. River

    Dating & Sex

    Me too. LOL. That is, I'm quite a catch for anyone who's wanting a genuinely affectionate, loving connection in which there is an ability and willingness to communicate sincerely, be "vulnerable," have real fun and good times together... and all the sort of things I'd want in a companion. I've...
  11. River

    Dating & Sex

    PS - I've been around and around this loop, and yet I don't seem to be ready or willing to withdraw into a cave in the wilderness! Amazing! It's way past using reason or logic -- or analysis.... It's obviously irrational to continue making myself available. LOL!!! :rolleyes:
  12. River

    Dating & Sex

    Not so much, really. He's not been very communicative lately -- much less than before we got together, to say the least. He did say (when face-to-face) that he was enjoying our fresh new connection and that he definitely wanted more, and also said he'd like us to go hiking together soonish. But...
  13. River

    USA Today Article on Polyamory (March 20, 2019)

    Perhaps, but in no way was that made clear. In fact, if that is so, it was left quite unspecified and unclear. Oftentimes, folks these days -- the commitment phobic folks mostly -- use "expectations" as an epithet for "icky" and "pathological" and "I'm out of here." It's just not honest. It's...
  14. River

    USA Today Article on Polyamory (March 20, 2019)

    Excerpt from that article: "I am open to explore whatever may or may not develop, creating lasting friendships and honest relationships without expectations." I keep hearing this "without expectations" phrase, coming from various quarters, with the apparently implicit assumption that love --...
  15. River

    Invisible Sun

    In my first "mystical" experience I experienced what can only be called "infinite love." There is absolutely no exaggeration in what I just said. It was shocking, astonishing, intense, amazing. I cannot exaggerate the intensity of it. There are not numbers large enough to measure the love I...
  16. River

    Invisible Sun

    Was your mystical experience an episode which began and ended, or is it ongoing? Were there many episodes (moments, periods of time) or just one? I've had a series of what must probably be defined as "mystical experiences" throughout my life. Episodes, states less than stations. Each was unique...
  17. River

    Book: "Sex and the Intelligence of the Heart"

    I bet you'd never have looked at it were it posted in the Spirituality section. I bet a lot of folks who come to this forum never poke around in the spirituality section. Why? Because so much which is called "spirituality" is nothing more than myth and wishful thinking. And many people dismiss...
  18. River

    Invisible Sun

    For me, belief has almost nothing to do with so-called "spirituality". For me, it's not about belief -- or even ideas, notions -- very much. It is about feeling and experience and a certain kind of knowing which isn't about intellectually grounded knowledge, per se. (What of any usefulness or...
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    Book: "Sex and the Intelligence of the Heart"

    Indeed! We are nature. We are part of nature. We are natural. To me, everything which exists is, in some sense, natural -- is nature. But human beings, rather obviously, are a strange kind of animal which has uniquely engaged in modifying the world around her, shaping most things to suit her...
  20. River

    Book: "Sex and the Intelligence of the Heart"

    I haven't yet had much time to spend with the book (Sex and the Intelligence of the Heart). I was going to spend some real time with it yesterday, but then an old friend I haven't been hanging out with in years -- who had recently apologized to me for this and that and said he wanted to revive...
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