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LOL! No offense taken. Female here.

Wow, yeah, this isn't easy. Thank you all again for all your help. I'd be completely at a loss without your wisdom, guidance, experience. So, on Friday we went out-- dinner and a festival... Just a beautiful night. On Saturday, I dated her again-- mall, lunch, a movie, a festival. And then...

Thank you all so very much. My emotions are slightly settling down, or shifting. I was even able to kiss her last night without the anger, or the thought of him, which was absolutely awesome. I've come to kind of a place of weird acceptance. At the risk of sounding like an ass, I'm going to...

Googling now. Thank you!!!

I can see why you'd say that. I think I probably articulated myself poorly. Just two weeks ago, we were meeting with a Planner, working on retirement, and now I can't even look two weeks out. I think I'm wanting/needed her more because I'm so scared of losing her. I really can't picture a...

Thanks again. I think the root here is I need to go slower and figure out if I can accept this part of her. I need more reassurance, and I need to be able to get over the "ICK" of him, but she so wrapped up in her NRE, I can't get her to see that.

Thanks, Sage. I don't consider the thread hijacked at all, no worries. I'm trying to suck up as much of all of the members wisdom and experience as I can. I appreciate it all. Even seeing what polyamorous couples go through further into the relationship is relevant. I really don't know if she's...

So, yesterday was another drama-laden mess. Sometime midday, a mutual acquaintance of ours contacted me on Facebook, and asked me why my wife's profile was changed to "Interested in M&F." Well, I lost it. We argued for hours, with the end result being we are "roommates who date." I told her...

Thanks again for the advice, everyone. Geez, what a mess. Redpepper, I really do appreciate your input. Ten days ago I was able to brag about my wife having more integrity than anyone I know. I can't cast stones; I've been a mistress in the past and know what a disaster she is headed for...

Been in the industry for about 20 years, most hotels pride themselves on discretion, a- to not be sued, b- cause its all about the money. As for head count in a room, it comes down to fire code, king with a pull out should be fine for 3, more than 3 youll need a room with 2 beds, usually up to...

Thank you!! All the feedback has been of great assistance. Words can't express how much help talking with you all has been. She went to him last night. I moved to the spare room. This morning, I was able to look her in the eye, tell her I hope she had a fantastic night, and actually mean it...

Thanks, Sage. We've been talking a lot, and communicating well, I think. I just feel like calling her my wife is a lie. I love her madly, but don't know if I'll ever be able to share intimacy. It's not that she's having sex. I could not care less if she wants a little on the side. It's not...

Now I find myself searching for a way to redefine "us." I'm trying to be the girlfriend who doesn't give a shit, but it's so hard. I am trying to support her and celebrate her happiness, but I just feel awful.

Thank you all for your help, and for providing me with such invaluable resources. They have really helped me get a better grasp on this. I think where I'm at is: I could handle the extramarital intercourse, but not the intimacy of this budding relationship she is building. I know it's my own...

Depends. I get leaving a spouse if the gender preference isn't right. But taking on additional partners? I just don't know. It's like my whole world just got ripped apart. I only want her happy, but I don't know if I'm the one to be able to do this with her. I don't want to push away from her...

Thanks again for your help. Sorry I'm too newb to quote correctly. "Drunk sex isn't poly. It's... well... drunk sex. Is she wanting to find someone else to love, or be open to having other people to have sex with? (BTW, you can be both, but if it's all about the shag with friends, that's more...

Thanks for the relocate and kind words. I'm just so lost. It's such a double-edged sword. I want her happy, and I told her to pursue it, but I'm not remotely close to happy about it. I don't know if I should, or even can stay and suck it up for her. On the same token, I know she's going...

Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I've been with my wife for 6 years, married 4. We are both female. She left her husband of 6 years for me. Throughout our relationship, we had said she could sleep with whomever she wanted, as I had a very promiscuous youth, but I never believed she...