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I think the first thing to understand is that you can't force your relationship with her. It should fall into its place on its own. I think the reason many triads fail is because of the insistence that everyone try to love everyone equally. Polyamory works mostly by communication. You should be...

My grandmother tried to reconvert me several times. She said she wanted to be able to see me in heaven. I asked her if heaven was a place of endless joy. She said it was. I asked her that if I did go to hell, would she still be happy in heaven. She paused because there is no good answer to...

I am pretty "out" in my atheism. I have had a lot of conversations about religion from people of all beliefs. I also hate the tithing system. It seems to hurt so many people who really can't afford it. Unfortunately, a lot of Christian churches are preaching "prosperity" gospel. The idea is if...

What I do is to just think about it from different point of views or with different hypothetical situations. I usually try to imagine what I would vary with the situation so I would not be bothered. And then I try to understand that. Sometimes if I think about it enough, my logical and...

It doesn't make you a freak, just someone who has figured out what they want. This is the right forum to talk about issues with being new to poly. There are a few threads on finding people in these forums.

That is funny because I just saw an article on kissing in the Bible. It quotes a few verses like Romans 16:16, 1 Corinthians 16:20, 1 Thessalonians 5:26, 1 Peter 5:14 and 2 Corinthians 13:11-12. One example of the quote is "Finally, brethren, farewell. Be perfect, be of good comfort, be of one...

I have a neighbor who is very controlling of her husband. She is kind of upset that he went to a strip club before they ever met. She brags about him being a virgin when they did finally get together. (She had kids from a previous marriage.) So once the topic of guys looking at porn came up...

In one of my earlier relationships, my girlfriend wanted to be spiritual or Christian while I identified as atheist. It was an issue in the sense that I worried she was going to get "weird." I didn't really have anything against religion then except that it seemed people did weird stuff for no...

That's pretty cool. It is sometimes very hard for people to relate on some of these issues when there are so many differences that seem apparent. I think maybe the closest feeling I had to this may be when I tried to contemplate infinity.

I am kind of interested in how this went. It may be off topic for this thread. If so, maybe a new thread? But no pressure. I am just curious.

It is probably a good idea to talk about what will make everyone comfortable. For example, will it be awkward who your wife sits next to? Or if she kisses one person in front of the other, will it feel odd? I was in a FMF triad before and I felt some stress over trying to balance everything. If...

I wouldn't go into too much information. Maybe just relate that you and your partner care for each other very much and let the child ask any questions. As for their father, you may have to watch out if he may try to use that to get the kids. From what I have seen, it was a bigger concern in the...

I think you should let things play out as naturally as possible. It takes awhile to feel comfortable with polyamory situations for many people. If you asked him now about the future, he may think he will stick around for awhile but sees no long term future because that is what society teaches...

The celibacy thing reminds me of this Bible passage: 1 Timothy 3:2 — “A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach.” From what I heard, the Catholic Church did not want priests to marry because of inheritance...

I think there are several threads on finding people. From what I have heard, OKCupid is pretty poly friendly.

Be careful of listening to God (or thinking you are). Sometimes the results are humorous like in God's Busy Schedule. Or horrible as seen in the stories of Peggy Ross, Latisha Lawson, LaShaun Harris, etc. These people killed family members because God told them to. While mental problems seem to...

"One flesh" is also just another phrase for sex. You can see this in 1 Corinthians 6:16 "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, 'The two will become one flesh.'" Like many parts of the Bible, pick your beliefs and you can find a...

I wish I could remember where I found it. It was about 6 years ago. I want to say it was for a Navy clearance but I don't really remember. (I just remember that it wasn't quite the same branch of government I got my clearance through, but I was hoping that the guidance was the same. It didn't...

I have a security clearance and I was wondering if my poly lifestyle would be a problem. I found a memo on this. It basically said that swinging, kink, homosexuality and adultery in itself would not disqualify a clearance. That is unless the person was hiding it and could be blackmailed. I...

I use to get the butterfly feelings as well. But over time, it slowly went away. I think it is just getting use to a new situation.