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Hi Kitten. I DO love kittens ! Where you at?

Oh dear. I gotta get on this. London, all interactions are not founded in a competition. Sometimes (all times, actually) the horse needs to come before the cart. Don't try to run before you walk, etc. I would ask you to go back to your own above quote and run a little analysis on it. Although...

Welcome Welcome, Vicarious, and good luck. It seems your biggest fear is crossing that boundary of your mate indulging in some sex with another male. Obviously, a common problem in our society, but actually rather easy to cross. If/when you feel you need some help/support, feel free to come...

General, overly-simplified thoughts Hey there, I happened upon your post, and thought it might be something I could contribute some general thoughts to, to help keep focused. Major non-traditional lifestyle changes can be a real tempest, and it's easy for it to get/seem to be out of control...

Thanks Thanks everyone, Ari, NYCindie, Idealist. Glad to hear all is well for you all, or as well as can be expected, at least. This is probably not the ideal place for this thread and undoubtedly it will get moved, but I figured it was the main loop that would get noticed for starters...

Awesome ! Hey LR, Glad to hear you're hitting a high cycle. :) We get those sometimes, too. :) Say hi to all the 'crew' for me! I think I drifted away because things were becoming repetitive and it seemed like everything that could possibly be said/analyzed had already been touched on. The...

Hi Everyone, Just stopped in after a long (about 2 yrs) hiatus. Browsed around a little and see a LOT of the same old familiar faces. Guess this is a good thing :) I tried to think of something controversial quick like to stir something up - but came up empty. :) This will click with a...

Hey RP, I wish everything could be so black and white. I'm not one who can draw that hard line in the sand, in many instances. As we've seen so many examples of, even just on this little forum, life is not always that simple. I've seen people who are obviously, truly, polyamorous, but because...

Hello Feylady, So, does this bubble you have been living in have a name? Or do you just call it 'bubble'? Okay, enough being factious. You seriously don't get the struggles people from alternative lifestyles and belief systems deal with in trying to navigate the normal world? So it seems...

Hi Elf, Some thoughts on your post. Is anyone "enough" for anyone at all points in time? Think about it. A lot of this comes from the fairy tales our culture recites to us as children. But we're adults. We've realized that fairy tales don't correlate with real life, right? The whole...

There may be a number of reasons for it. 1> One partner may not be too computer savvy and would never log into something alone. 2> One partners usage may be so minimal that it doesn't justify them having to manage yet ANOTHER username & pwd. 3> Not everyone really is into all this online...

Hello Red, So........a question....... Why the "rules" ? What are you afraid of ? You both have been sexual with others - this isn't something brand new. What do you feel you still don't understand ? What's hiding in the shadows ? GS

Hey AnotherConfused, Based on what you've written only, I suspect you see the situation pretty clearly. There are a variety of reasons why he may not be that sexual with you and there's no need to get into them. It doesn't matter. It is what it is. What seems important in this is that he's...

Hi there PooBah, First off, I'd say you are possibly a bit confused, which never helps rough spots. I'd say, just from what little you've written, that you guys dabbled in swinging, which may or may not lead to poly understanding. It's critical that you understand the difference. Read/study...

Hi there, I personally would suggest against any attempt at separation. We are a global community now and the benefits are obvious in so many areas. It's a very worthwhile thing to share what we all have in common and in difference. This is a topic that's been touched on before in other...

Hey there, NeedsmoreDrama. Let's see if this can clear the air and get you and your wife talking honestly about relationships and polyamory. Her behavior regarding her BFF is really no different than any other form of jealousy we see. This is her friend. There are the same old ownership problem...

Hey RP, It never ceases to amaze me how we have to try and constantly rewrite the dictionary. We have more communication breakdowns in this world because of this than any other reason. People just insist on calling apples oranges because they are color blind ! We have terms like 'orange'...

Hey Oldguy, If you think about it, I think what you are observing is just typical for human nature. It's just the ego interfering as usual. It happens in all areas of life. Anything from a neighborhood you move into to the latest hybrid car you drive etc. People tend to feel they've...

Interesting comment, Opal. I wonder if we've uncovered another gender difference, or if it may be a regional or cultural difference. Like I said to RP, it's amazing how many variations on the meaning of any particular word you find. I have never seen/heard the term slut or any other derogatory...

Thanks for this reminder, Mags. I think we (those of us from a certain period) often need this reminder, that we did live in a unique time, where labels and attitudes were changing fast. A lot of analysis, opening up, loosening up, if you will. Then it fizzled. :( But there were valuable lessons...