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They are both decent sites, both with a downside. Love polymatchmaker cuz obviously, everyone's poly, and I've found really good possible matches. Downside---none (yet) are in my state. :rolleyes: OKcupid is better for getting local matches. Downside---you have to sift thru tons of monos to...

I think this is a fair question. I myself have no family or coworkers on FB friend list, just friends who would honestly care and want to share in my life. As for an answer to the original poster, I really don't know. I don't have titles or categories---just a lump sum of friends. My...

^ Have Had is what they said. past tense.

Extremely good graph. Wish I had seen it years ago...LOL. I shared it with the gay polyamory group on facebook I'm a member of. I don't know if I'll ever try doing a triad again, but there are quite a few couples there that probably really need to see it!!! Also, I suppose a good graph...

It's awesome you've taken the time to answer all these questions. Certainly looked like a few trolls tried to come in there, but y'all didn't take the bait. :) I cringe the number of times the questioners used the word polygamy though...sheesh. :rolleyes: I especially liked how you answered...

Maybe try to bring up in a casual conversation what the rules of their relationship are. From what I read here, I am guessing there are high odds that they weren't a totally monogamous couple anyways. (Not to be stereotypical, but living in the gay male community for 17 years now, I've...

^Awesome. :) So I recently got one on a gay personals site: "So what's this polygamy thing you're into? You want seven husbands or something?? I can be down with that! So when do we start? How many you got so far??" Uhh.... :eek:

I certainly think the only thing that's odd about it is that it sounds too polite from OKC. Usually I get a "'Sup!" :confused:

^ Very true. Many poly people often complain about aggressive MF seeking F unicorn hunters. But they are MILD compared to some aggressive MM seeking M unicorn hunters. Let me tell ya! :p

The one time I was in a triad, it wasn't 2+1, but a simultaneous joining of 1+1+1. So I'm not sure what other types there are. But I have wondered about a scenario where I saw someone dating a couple, as if that couple was One Person. Never went out with just one of them at a time....it was...

Sorry to hear the reaction did not go well. Hopefully they will get used to the idea with time. What amazes me is that you told them before actually having a second partner. My hat off to you for the guts you've got. I never actually told anyone in my family a thing about poly...I figured...

There's also a Poly group in Austin meeting thru the meetup.com website: http://www.meetup.com/The-Metro-Austin-Polyamory-Positive-Relationships-Group/ If it's anything like the poly meetup here in Raleigh, you should find a pretty good number of 20-something members in it. Good Luck

This has been a discussion we've had often on this board. Everyone has a different opinion, but I can safely say I'm not the only one who strongly feels that: Yes, polyamory is the more natural path for myself. We've had many people here to say that they tried to be monogamous and it just...

I wouldn't recommend being out as poly at least not using the word...especially if you or a partner is married. But otherwise, there's probably some things they shrug off if you don't get technical. Like if a guy---unmarried---just hanging with the guys in his unit said "Back in my hometown I...

It's as if someone is reading my mind. ;) Loving more than one person is not difficult. Falling IN love with more than one person at the same time, might be more of a challenge, to be fair. But actually ongoing love with more than one person---been there, done that, and hope to do it more...

Yes you need to work on getting your feeling across. If you honestly feel you're not getting what's rightfully expected in a relationship then you need to communicate that...thoughtfully, and non-accusatory, of course. Just because his girlfriend doesn't have a job doesn't mean she can't go out...

Yeah, I wouldn't describe it as a fantasy. If you feel that polyamory is for you, embrace it and give it a try, but don't make it out to be a fantasy or fetish. Whether you want to call it a lifestyle or relationship orientation or whatever, whenever you date women just let them know it's who...

Ugh....how many times have I called out someone on their hypocrisy and got the "I know but I can't help how I feel!" spiel. :rolleyes: That statement always comes from a selfish person, in my opinion. Sorry but what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Either both get to have...

Another question would be do they not have other partners that can take some of the pressure off of you?

Yeah, after you tackle the obvious questions of does everyone get along and all that jazz, the biggie that most people overlook is SPACE. In my last relationship, we had three guys (plus some pets) in a modest three-bedroom, 1.5 bath ranch house and we about killed each other. I cannot even...