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Very very true. However, even if they don't outwardly judge your lifestyle, it might not keep them from making assumptions! Not necessarily a poly thing, but I did have a bad experience with a doctor who barely listened to my symptoms for less than a minute because he must have picked up on...

Obviously there's no assurance that a gay or gay-friendly doctor will also be poly-friendly but let's just assume that usually it would be the case. (One would hope!) ;) In that case, here's a provider directory from the GLMA (Gay & Lesbian Medical Association): http://tinyurl.com/23gjlkx...

I wouldn't say poly makes a person less patient but it makes you prioritize what type of BS you put up with. If you look out for yourself as a top priority and then look out for your primary partner as your next highest priority, then that leaves less energy to deal with crap from anyone else...

It happens, but no more than say, me falling for a straight guy. What's worse is when I find someone poly and compatible online and they live too far to meet. That hurts more because you know that if it weren't for that it'd all be great.

Yeah, I wouldn't agree to anything on that list. Maybe being kept secret from coworkers is fine, but otherwise, nothing on that list I'd agree to. Nor would I expect from another!

Having just survived and come out rather scathed from a all-male triad that destructed like a nuclear explosion, I urge some caution. I like what one person said about doing a trial run, basically, move in for a short time, a few weeks, a month, whatever, but not give up your lease on your...

On phone to a guy I'm kinda now seeing.... Him: "I'm headed out to see two couples I know tonight, they're cooking dinner. I'm very nervous about it...." Me: "Oh no biggie, just wear something sexy and that nice cologne that I told you turns me on! They'll be crazy about ya!" Him: "I meant...

^ That would make an awesome T-Shirt!

Infuriating to say the least. It's like they constantly forget what the "B" stands for. :p Crap like this is why I tend to hang out in poly circles more than gay ones. As someone who's both, I can count on the poly's to embrace my gay side more than I can the gays to embrace my poly side...

"I'm really working on my compersion right now" Ah yes. If I haven't said those exact words before, I've said something similar for sure. ;)

Wow. That was pretty good. I lost track of how many I've heard! :D

Well, not much overlap...more like they have separate kink communities. The gay male leather/bdsm scene is alive and well (though very underground). It's just a very isolated, separate community that doesn't have much overlap with the straight kink community because it's so male-on-male...

Wow, that sux about the sister. Even if being bi didn't help her understand poly more, you'd at least think that she'd know enough not to judge or anything. :rolleyes: Agree, 100%. :)

I haven't read all the many responses yet but wanted to add what I could... You're probably on to something. While I would never go so far as to say something generic and over-broad as "Bi's are more likely to be poly." No, that'd be irresponsible, probably. However, I WILL say that...

My philosophy is, whoever came up with the phrase "Blood is thicker than water" was just coming up with some ridiculous propaganda to encourage nosy relatives to butt in places that aren't their business. For an independent adult, there is simply no reason to put up with other relatives...

Welcome to the site guys! :) Good luck in your journey. Hope it works well for you and you enjoy being here. Folks here are great and an excellent resource for ideas, support, etc. :cool:

Hey guys, welcome to the forum.

Well, since you are a student, and probably have time constraints, this relationship may be a big benefit. Maintaining a fulltime serious boyfriend relationship is never easy as a student. This puts a little less pressure on you. They have each other to fulfill their main needs. I guess all...

Hell, even if someone IS looking for casual sex or a fuck buddy, what you describe is a big red flag to stay away! :eek: I don't think I want someone like that even sharing the same sidewalk as me!

Yes, it definitely sounds like the major issue here was sex without an established relationship, or at the very least, a friendship. You seem fine about the bf, the gf, and the couple. (After all, you know them and aren't threatened by them.) But this one guy, and how he and your wife went about...