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Well, one of the good things about a MFMF quad is that, to the outside world, it's easy to appear as just two couples who are best friends, like the Flintstones and the Rubbles. ;) We also live in a conservative state, and in an odd way I'm a tad jealous that your situation can easily be...

I think I'm gonna be a tad less diplomatic than other posters in this thread and just be honest and blunt about it: calling something a double-standard is just another way of saying they are hypocritical. And nothing pisses me off more in life than hypocrites. If it were me, I'd simply say...

Well-said! :cool:

That was great to see for sure! For years, she's been open about being Bi...and she has hinted on occasions about things that sounded to me as being both a poly/swinging mixture...as well as dabbling into bdsm lifestyles. Her openness about these things is quite admirable.

I call them both partners. As a unit, I say we're a family though occasionally have used the cute word "throuple". ;)

OK, isn't adultery a civil offense, not a criminal one? I.e, someone could sue you for divorce, but if you're in an agreed open marriage, it's not considered adultery? (I admit I'm not legal expert here!)

I saw this comic today and it made me laugh: http://mediumlarge.wordpress.com/2011/06/14/medium-large-comic-tuesday-june-14-2011/ At first I thought it was a Polyamory joke....then realized it wasn't. Obviously my mind works different than the author's. LOL :p

I can think of one or two folks in my past that I wish I HAD done a background check on. Would've saved me a lot of anguish. So put me in the Yes vote. There's no room in a relationship...poly or mono, primary or secondary...for blatant dishonesty like that.

No, I think what was meant was, "Not only am I finding new people to connect with, but once I get to know those he's involved with, I've got even more great people in my life." At least, that's how I read it. :cool:

If it's a small town you're in, you might have to drive to a larger city nearby. The main poly group in NC meets in the Raleigh/Durham area but has folks drive there from hours away often.

Even if the alternative press does slightly better than the above two pics, they still lack a good deal of accuracy in their portrayals, unfortunately. Example, about two years ago a gay and lesbian newspaper in our state did a story on polyamory. But their example? Four young skinny...

If you three are working on forming a Triad, you have to understand that it is a series of 4 relationships: The one between you and your girlfriend...the one between your girlfriend and your guy...the one between you and the guy...and finally of course the one when all three of you together. I...

@ Scramcity: I dunno if gender has as much to do with it. Both my partners are men yet I love each in very different ways. And I'm sure each of them could say the same. No two people are alike in how you fall in love with them. Mostly (b) really. I think I mentioned this elsewhere but my...

Hopefully this will improve with time. I think it's paramount to concentrate on each pair within the triad. Make 100% sure Sarah is getting one-on-one quality time with both Tom and you, so that when you and Tom are together, it just seems more natural. (Everyone needs a little alone time, and...

You took the words outta my mouth. ;) These days, it does kinda feel like you're the "outlier" one if your skin is au naturel....heheh. To be fair, I did have an earring in college...but that was just a short period of time in the late 90s. :D

Rihanna - "S & M" (Dave Aude' Remix) :D

My mom sent an Easter card: "To my son and his family" :D

Very glad to read that y'all are hangin' in there! I'll add one bit about jealousy...it never fully goes away. But what really helps for me is to stop and think "Is this jealousy coming out of selfishness?" And you know what? For me, 9 times outta 10, it is! :eek: I have to stop and tell...

As I can fully attest, every triad experience will be different. Regarding conflicts, the 2 against 1 situation is inevitable. It's all in how you handle it. You definitely don't want anyone feeling bullied. But take a practical look into it. M has said that C and I don't agree on a lot, so if...

I would probably answer: "No, I doubt you could!" :p