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I remember connexion....they advertised for a while as a "gay facebook" so to speak. Don't recall any poly people on there though...but that's cool if there are some now. I remember tribe.net had a ton of poly people on it... even had a "Queer Poly" room as well as a "gay/bi poly men" room...

Educating gay men about polyamory...uphill battle. After reading River's story...and thinking about some of my own observations (see: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showpost.php?p=58188&postcount=39 as example), it really seems that, at least in the Queer community, the bisexuals and lesbians...

River--- It was a very interesting post, thanks for sharing. If I had to guess, it sounds like he's typical of a lot of gay men in "open relationships"---sex with others is ok but you're only allowed to love one man. And in that same breath, they'll turn around and say something negative...

Been here a while but somehow missed this thread. Anyways.... Gay Poly Dude. ;) Partnered in a triad. -R

I'm guessing you're referring to the theme of "sex sells" when it comes to gay-oriented businesses, like magazines, etc? I dunno. I mean, there's always the stereotype that gay men sleep around more than straight men. But I've always believed it was not a gay vs straight thing. It was more...

Hello and welcome to the forum! I'm in a poly all-male relationship. Specifically, in a triad. Probably significantly different than what you're going through, in the sense that we've all been together for same amount of time, and that we're all involved with each other. But still if you...

Most lesbians and bi women I know say the same thing. Thus, they go for stuff like softball leagues, bowling, biking/hiking outings, coffee socials...stuff like that.

Perhaps this thread needs to be merged with this one: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3830 ??

Definitely sounds like she's trying to get into primary status with him. Before C moved in with M and me, he often felt like a "third"...or M's secondary. It was only when he moved in with us that he felt more like an equal part of the triad. Currently with the three of you each having your...

Maybe a synonym for androgynous?

Welcome! If you have specific questions, feel free to ask. Best general advice I can think of for now is that, it's great that you love your wife and you've made a great first step coming here. Keep up the good work. :cool:

Our example Well obviously for starters, a king-size bed was required. Major prerequisite there. At first we thought we'd take turns in the middle more often. It is nice to be cuddled between two, after all. But in practice, M is almost always in the middle, partly because our triad started...

Didn't I see somewhere that every year, there's actually a "Poly Pride Day" in New York City with a rally and all that jazz?? I wanna say it's in the fall.... Anyways, just getting something like that spreading to other cities would be interesting.

^Thanks for reminding me of those great poly examples from Star Trek and Babylon 5. The Denobulans were definitely one of the best examples of poly in any science fiction. Too bad they dug into it for only one episode, really. I seem to recall another episode of ST Enterprise where they met a...

Well, my earlier post was on the task of telling friends and family. That alone is a big hurdle. Telling coworkers is a whole other ballgame. It took me years to admit to my coworkers that I was gay. Poly? Oy. That's scary and unpredictable. This is still the South here, after all. Most folks...

Had a blood orange with lunch. They're finally in season again and oh so very good. :cool:

Oh yeah, that's similar to one I mentioned. I find that bitter single people bring up that line VERY often. It's a two-in-one punch---try to show disapprovement of polyamory while at the same time pulling a "pity me" scenerio. This is probably why we have very few single friends right now.

You gotta be honest and upfront about how the two are different, even if you don't feel one is better than the other. Stuff like, "Yes, I like how he does so-and-so. But on the other hand, I really love how you do this-and-that." Because, let's face it, we're kidding ourselves if we say, "Oh...

May, Thanks for your post! I really relate to what you say. When you say "it really annoys me that I am affected so much by THEIR problems"....it's like you read my mind! ;) Sounds like a very similar dynamic for sure.

These kinda things would raise a red flag for me. It'd be one thing if they were an already married couple that was moving to a triad situation... Fine. But even after you've been added, they're still going through with a wedding and acting like a couple everywhere? Something just doesn't add...