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Welcome! It's a great sign that you're interested in learning more about poly folk. It turns out, we're a lot like normal people. ;). There is a ton of reading in these forums and elsewhere. As long as you're here though, let me offer w few quick tips: 1) You can be a happy and healthy...

PG, Sister Wives is an interesting show. When you have a chance to watch it, you might want to pay special attention to hiw the wives deal with emotional needs in relation to their husband and how it affects the wives' interactions. You might even consider asking Ki and Ka if they'd watch it...

This does sound like a bit of a pickle. If I read you correctly, you're emotionally bonded with both Q and Z (if they weren't together, you'd be the pivot in their V). I think RP might have underplayed your feelings for Z in crafting her response. The first thing I'd suggest is simple: no...

Great comments from the others. Let me just add something from the perspective of your wife who is new to polyamory. It's quite unsettling and scary wrestling with accepting one's polyamorous nature after a lifetime of living a monoamorous lifestyle. Your support and acceptance can make that go...

TRye, reading your story and your reply, I feel a lot of pain coming through your words. I may be removed from my time in the church, but there are parts of that experience that are true and valuable. For example, people are all inherently valuable. You are inherently valuable. Let me take a...

It sounds like you are in a good place. Of course you're full of NRE and nervous--that's to be expected, and it's not a bad thing. The thing that helps best with the nervousness is time. The annoying part about that is time takes, well... time. You have a potential meet for Thursday. So...

Feelings of inequity are understandable. After all, the four if you are human, and humans are imprecise. Even if D is precise in what he gives the three of you (your story says otherwise), your individual perceptions may highten differences. As for the question if mono or poly, you're in a...

TRye, I also grew up in the South, so I can understand some of the conflicting emotions you have been feeling. (As evidence if that upbringing, your username reminded ne if the city of Tyre in whose shores Jesus preaches in Matthew, Mark, and Luke.) Do I recall correctly that you are a...

Blondie2, no worries. As for your recent details, you're happy, you're shedding preconceived notions, and you're excited. These are great. Keep that clear head and open heart, and I think you'll be fine. Your partner is very correct in saying that poly is--like all of life--what you make if it.

Res, Mr. G sounds like a special person in your life. I know you have lived with the tradition of being mono, and poly is new ground for you. I wouldn't be surprised if a younger you had grown up with a tradition if being straight before you accepted your gayness. I know I struggled for...

On contacts.... Djinni, that energy is awesomely but potentially dangerous. How you handle it can mean a lot. It's good that you're seeking advice (perhaps better than the advice you get ;)). I would suggest that you try to limit the texting carpet bombing runs. Done? Great start. :) Ok...

I don't think this forum can accurately evaluate how considerate or creepy any letter was without seeing all the details. From what floundering says, I don't think such an evaluation would matter. The facts as presented mean floundering and Bea are back on track. Floundering... I hope you and...

Welcome, openbj. I also was raised in the Bible Belt. Allow me to offer some suggestions as you get started. 1) Eric loves you very much. No matter who else is in his life, you are always important to him. If his experience has been anything like mine, opening up to you about how his heart...

Blondie2, polyamory has about as many definitions as practicioners. Personally, I tend to consider polyamory as multiple relationships with emotional substance rather than multiple sexual partners. I'd suggest that multiple sexual partners without the emotional connection is swinging, not...

Redsol: probably the best advice I can offer is that you keep communication open. As a new relationship, there is a strong impulse to share a lot, and that can go too far, so try to balance honest openness against eager pushiness. I worry when you write that you feel put out by coming in...