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And now a snippet of pure sweetness: I was hanging at Gia and Eric's for Gia's birthday the other night. Also present was Thom, the friend who's babysat Bee the most after me. Bee was babbling about something grown-ups can do, I honestly forget what, and he said "Uncle Thom can do it, Anna can...

I've done a lot of thinking and processing the last several days. I had begun to make peace in my heart with the thought of transitioning to friendship with Pike. But then... [copied from my post about this situation on the Poly Relationships Corner board]: Things have taken a rather...

Hi all, Many thanks for the continuing advice, I appreciate it so much. Becca, I too have been manipulated into staying in a relationship way past when it should have ended -- when I tried to leave, my partner threatened suicide -- so I 1,000% hear you about making it as easy as possible for...

Not sure why you're posting about this here, since this isn't a poly situation. But yes, obviously, end the relationship for good already. It's a huge shame for the child-to-be that you waited until it came to this point, but having children doesn't make a relationship stronger, it will only...

Thank you to everyone who's commented so far. Sparklepop, I especially appreciate being reminded that there are multiple potential ways to deal with a situation like this. Regarding my use of "not yet" in my original post... I had always known losing him to monogamy was a possibility, but I...

My partner of just under a year, Pike, is thinking of ending our relationship, not because of anything to do with us -- things have been great with us -- but because he's not sure he wants to do poly any more. And not because he's naturally monogamous -- he actually seems very well adapted to...

Updates. I've been feeling even more that Gia and I are just very close friends now. We haven't been physical at all since my last entry, we rarely even snuggle these days. I still haven't talked to her about how my conceptualization of our relationship has shifted, though. I feel a bit like a...

Add disrespecting your personal items, going through your trash to spy on you, lying to you, insulting your intelligence by expecting you to believe obvious lies, and attempting to emotionally manipulate you ("I thought we were supposed to be giving each other the benefit of the doubt") to the...

I saw this and, sadly, thought of your situation with Maca -- http://mental-health-advice.org/post/76910627824/what-are-the-signs-of-emotional-abuse Also, as someone who's close to the parents of a toddler, I should think that ANY loving co-parent would be overjoyed if their fellow co-parent...

I was inspired by Becca's thoughts on the impossibility of pure equality to return to something LoveBunny said which matches up very well with my own experience -- "My actual experiences in long-term triads have taught me that I will always want one member of a couple more than I want the...

There's a reason these terms and their negative connotations exist. If you'd rather wax poetic about your relationship and act indignant than seek feedback about why exactly so many solo poly people find the idea of a couple seeking a single woman for a polyfidelutous relationship distasteful...

Thanks, MR. :) Your way of doing solo poly sounds very much like mine. The night before last, trying to distract myself from fretting over Pike, I reached out to Clay. Normally Clay and I schedule our dates in advance rather than getting together on the spur of the moment, but it turned out he...

Awww, thank you both so much. :) :) Pike and I texted a little last night. He seemed to be feeling positive, and said he was very happy to hear from me. But he didn't respond when, near bedtime, after a break in our conversation, I told him I loved him and was here for him. I figure he was...

I really can't spend much time on this site. I went to the "Relationships Corner" section and even just reading the titles of the posts bummed me out. That said, it feels good to check in and continue my story. Things with Clay have mellowed out somewhat while staying very satisfying and...

I log in for the first time in months, and get to see this. :) :) :) Sooo so happy for all of you! Congratulations!!

So, teen girls just shouldn't date period? That's not gonna happen. Or they can date but they specifically shouldn't be involved in poly because it's more likely to be unhealthy, is that what you're saying? I didn't think we thought that here. Or is it ok for them to try poly, but they even more...

I'm seeing a ton of inferences that don't seem supported by the very limited info we have (could always ask the OP to clarify rather than assuming). We know that the gf doesn't understand poly very well and is uncomfortable hearing details about her partners other relationship. Sounds exactly...

WOW, I'm so sorry, Sammy, about all the intense negativity you're getting here. It doesn't make any sense to me. So the gf is 16 and her bf is 18. How on earth is that something to freak out over? A few months ago, she could easily have been 15 and he 17, and would anyone have been talking of...

The fact that we all share the same, opposing opinion doesn't mean that we're "tag teaming" you. We're not, like, private messaging each other and agreeing to gang up on you out of spite or to make you feel bad or something. We just all strongly disagree and are expressing our opinions, just...

SECONDED. Seriously. Please do NOT try to tell me that two female-bodied people aren't capable of having sex with each other, ugh. Or that two men can't, because, after all, they have penises that are penetrating things, which is obviously oh so important, and yet there's no chance that anyone...