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Hi guys, So I've been doing my best to put talk of polyamorous relationships with my monogamous boyfriend on the back burner while he is recovering from his panic disorder, for which he is receiving treatment presently, but it seems to keep cropping up. We were talking about something...

Thanks, idealist. I'm sorry it didn't work you for you and your guy. I hold no illusions that he and I might end up the same way but I have enough hope for now. Distance isn't actually so much of an issue for me. I'm visiting him in September this year and then hoping in a year after that to...

Completely true. I've given up on saving the world, honestly. I'm enough of a train wreck myself. It his job to work on getting well and my job to work on getting well too as well as both our job to cultivate patience with each other. That's just how we've always functioned as a couple. I...

Thanks, GS. I've been in co-dependent relationships before - being the dependent and the dependee - and they are not something I wish to include in my life any more. I do have a support group for my issues with relationships. I will make more effort to attend meetings and contact people from...

Thanks, sage. I hope the weather where you are is better than it is in the central city. I'm off to fill a hot water bottle, methinks!

I'd just like to clarify one point: the ex to which I refer is not my boyfriend just before this one. He is the one before the one before this one. I can't think of how to write that less confusingly. There was D, L and E. D is the Ex I like and E is my current partner. I don't want D as a...

Update: So I just tried bringing it up, very gently, not even talking about it directly with my boyfriend and he knew exactly what I was getting at and started to get afraid. I guess my only option for now is to avoid the Ex or set some strict boundary with him until my man is ready to talk...

Good luck! I hope it can be a calm and understanding conversation. That feeling you have is a good one, too.

I'll just link my Introduction before I start. So I'm still in a monogamous/exclusive, long-distance, heterosexual relationship. My boyfriend has a severe panic disorder, for which he is receiving thorough and successful treatment, as well as his abandonment issues and he's definitely...

Hmm... you make a good point. I guess maybe I'm trying to accept the rationalisation that my mother used in having an affair with her boyfriend for 2 years before he left his wife. I spent a lot of time counselling her about it (pretty unhealthy, I know). But it's hard to condemn people you...

Mono, I've been reading a lot of your posts. I find them very helpful. Thank you so much for all your writing/sharing on this forum. I've also found Redpepper's posts useful. I'm really happy for you two.

Welcome aboard. :3

I guess it depends how you look at it. It really made me quite sad, because one of the girls who was interviewed for the documentary on it (she used the site to pick up sugar daddies) said that she wouldn't date someone who didn't have a lot of money. I can't imagine that way of life ever being...

Hi everyone. After having a little look about, and finding the atmosphere safely supportive, I decided to register here. About me: I'm 24 years old, pan sexual, female and pretty sure I'm poly amorous also. I'm in a long-distance, committed, monogamous, heterosexual relationship which started...

As distasteful as that site seems to me, I've heard of worse. There's a site where attractive women make 'arrangements' or 'contracts' with rich men. Yay for the thin line between sugar daddy and sex client? :rolleyes: It's very disappointing to hear such a site being linked to polyamory. :/