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I dislike (and am often confused by) the categorization of relationships. So many of the categorizations seem arbitrary and/or imprecise. I would just as soon live without them, and just see relationships as a spectrum, and let them find their own level and mutually agreed-upon rules. For...

Even if it's just a description of the relationship you're in now, just for fun, try to imagine and articulate what nirvana would be for you.

Ok. Curious. In what was is supporting locally grown farming bad for the environment. I've never heard of that argument before and would love to know what that's about.

But then, nor is there the "abundance" of them that is marketed to us. That's more fiction than fact. ------------------- Speaking from experience, many human individuals become convinced that they cannot have children, only to find later that they can/could. I have found the fertility...

anyone else?

I think it would be nice if we all had had stable upbringings, and currently enjoyed nurturing environments, with support structures in place to help us thrive. I try to work toward that goal. But a lot of us have to make do with the best ingredients we can find at the time. I really think that...

It certainly is not an example of perfect polys. But that would probably get pretty boring, watching a bunch of blissed out people communicating really frequently and effectively, etc.

I imagine that two weekends together is not enough experience to know conclusively whether things are getting easier for you over time. Maybe you have enough experience with her visiting him alone that you know whether that gets easier over time (it's hard to derive from your original post)...

Happy for you. Sounds like all three of you feel like you are benefitting from this journey.

I hope that your mom understands that you are not ganging up on her or picking "his side" rather than "her side" and that your lifestyle choice does not imply a judgement on her lifestyle choice or attempt to excuse or condone people lying to one another.

Even if a thing has never existed in the past, does not mean it can not exist or does not need to exist. Even if there were a thousand examples of failed quads and were still waiting for the first successful one, it would still be worthwhile to strive to be that first successful one. That...

Happy lurking or posting (whichever you decide).

It sounds like she is truly, unfailingly monogamous. It also sounds like you have been extremely mature and open about your inclinations and desires (which are polyamorous). So it seems like the only place where you can exist romantically is back where you were, in a de facto monogamous...

The band that I am in imploded a year and a half ago. We were doing really well at the time, we had a lot of great songs that we had all written together and we had a nice local fan following. And, important to me, we had at least one really talented female musician/band member. We also...

I think the acting is pretty good considering they probably don't have the budget to do a million takes and the actors are basically volunteering their talents to the project.

Episode #19 just came out today. I think it's really well done. There is a lot about it that rings true/familiar.

From the way you describe things, it sounds like communication (and perhaps even honesty) are not very important to her. It's hard to build on top of such a shaky foundation. Relationships are easier in the long term if you face up to the truth, even the difficult truths, in the short term. It...

Welcome to here. Here there are many friendly people to bounce ideas off of.

It can be very difficult for people who have never been exposed to the polyamory paradigm to really get it. From what you've described, Milllie still has a pretty monogamous worldview. I can see why you might be concerned that she could someday escalate from, "I'm trying to wrestle with my...