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I haven't been on this forum for quite some time! Two years ago I decided to cull my life to sixteen boxes and make the huge move from Vancouver, BC to Boston, and return to the land of academia to become an accountant. It's been a wild ride, I don't even know where to begin. I also decided...

They are the same person. I've stepped back from the other man I've been dating as the situation with my main squeeze has been overwhelming for both of us. I will definitely look into NVC.....thank you so much for sharing that information. It was a difficult weekend, I had multiple panic...

My main squeeze and I have always used condoms, oddly enough I got pregnant with my son whilst using condoms when I was married. Crazy, I know. I'm diligent about gift wrapping, at least in the personal areas of my life...actual gifts, not so much! Our NRE was totally raging, no doubt about...

I went the Al Anon route for many years, then progressed to therapy. I moved from Vancouver, BC to Boston a year and a half ago, implementing the same support system has been slow going. I did go to a mediation group with friends today, it really helped. My main squeeze is still struggling with...

My best friend and I have actively discussed where my shortcomings are, and I've shared these with my main squeeze too. I didn't realize until him gently poking me that I was projecting past stuff onto him. When he said I hurt him by doing this I felt terrible, I wrote a long personal inventory...

I just noticed it's been five years since I posted on here, yikes! Boy have things changed since then. I am looking forward to connecting with people again outside of this difficult situation I'm talking about....thank you everyone in advance for any advice you offer :) What can I say, my main...

Aw, thank you :) I'm glad to hear things are going well with your new bf too! It felt nice to finally post something positive, and to see that other people feel the same way makes me even happier. Onward and upward!

Me too. He asked that I accept the changes that are happening, because it was inevitable that changes would happen. I plainly said our 15 year friendship and co-parenting relationship holds the same weight as your present relationship, and I don't have to accept changes that cause me to feel...

For myself, the closest I come to attaching any label to my sexual identification is queer. Even that is a tricky one for me...I think of it in a literal, dictionary-esque sense. "Strange or odd from a conventional viewpoint ; unusually different." Queer tends to be more of a North American...

I wanted to gush a little, because my "trinity of awesomeness" has been doing so well lately :) Since we put a relationship agreement in place, created a mutual google calendar and closed things off for a while to stabilize everything, our relationship is growing leaps and bounds. We have...

So I am super excited to be vending for my business again this year, and attending with my sweeties. Is anyone else on here going?

This past week has gone quite well, with only one hiccup. I did add some amendments to our relationship agreement be discussed this weekend. Which included prior knowledge of love interests before it becomes sexual, safer sex, and "hall passes" for special events. We also created a shared...

This is my final limit, absolutely. Normally I would not have been this accommodating - by now I would have had a screaming/swearing fit, punched someone in the head and walked. Poly is a very new world for me, in so many ways. I was not trying to be wishy washy, if anything it was my rather...

I did advocate for myself. I stood my ground, made my needs abundantly clear and that this b.s. and dishonesty was over if either of them want to keep me around.A clear relationship agreement was constructed and our "triad" ( I really dislike many poly terms) is closed until we are stable, and...

She wants the relationship agreement written now, because she strayed, because she said her desires have not been met. I have no experience with writing a relationship agreement whatsoever. I did write down a bunch of stuff that was important to me....but I didn't think outlining that you can't...

I said I would review what she wants for the relationship agreement tomorrow when we meet, but that was all I would commit to at this moment. In the meantime, their stuff is still packed. We all committed to stabilizing our relationship before putting anyone else in the mix. And what she did...

BoringGuy, Thank you. Responsible respectful behaviour is common sense, an agreement should no have to be constructed to keep one in line.

I'm grieving pretty damn hard right now. Things have been hunky dory over the last few weeks with my sweeties. Boundaries have been respected, a commitment to stabilizing our relationship was made, I've been feeling good. To be slammed in the face again. My female partner met some dude for...

I had an interesting epiphany about my relationship(s) last night, after crawling into bed. My male partner was very distracted after our conversation yesterday afternoon. In the two months we've been together he's divulged very little about his childhood, what his hopes/dreams/life goals are...

@Opalescent..." Don't fuck fragile, is awesome." I am going to use that in the future! Both my partners are willing to discuss my boundaries, they did like some of the suggestions that I put out there in regards to "play time". Events outside of our city, private engagements etc. Yes, we are...