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HPV can disappear without treatment - your body can adapt to the virus, and it is no longer a problem. I think this is what has happened here. You got retested, and the tests came back negative. I don't think you need to mention it to other lovers because you no longer have any infection, but if...

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I really don't understand the urge to get married and move in with someone who you've only been seeing for 3 months - that seems like utter madness to me - but I commend you on how you are handling it all. If she wants a divorce, then yes, your best move...

I don't think this is that big of a deal. She needs to learn to voice her expectations in advance and give you enough time in advance to make arrangements. Her disappointment is understandable, but since she never actually explained that part of the invite was for a snuggly morning spent...

And this is a poly discussion issue because…?

I think part of the issue is the way your SO goes into interactions with you. He sounds so bloody passive, and yes, like he's just taking direction from M and then being the passive relay of that information to you. That's why you get the feeling like you just want to cut the middleman out and...

I don't know. It sounds like they have solid plans for alone time coming up pretty soon, so I'm not sure you should feel the need to sexile yourself from your room while she's there. If the pair of them want to vacate and go elsewhere, then that's their business. Obviously since it's a surprise...

Well, in that case it would be good for you to encourage her to go alone (to counselling). The first step in figuring out what you guys want as a couple is to figure out what you want as an individual. It sounds like she would benefit enormously through resolving some of her feelings from that...

I think this is quite a normal feeling, and I can certainly relate - if you didn't get to experience much variety in partners over your life, I think the curiosity will always be there. But I don't like how transactional things seem with you guys. You don't "owe her" for the fact that you got a...

Or simply that she feels trapped in her life and can't find the strength to fight for what she wants. Which in reality, changes the situation for you guys not one iota. :( My first poly relationship was a little bit like this. Not so extreme, in that we had a fair amount of time together, and...

Your desires don't trump your wife's. Likewise, her desires don't trump yours. The only difference here is that your desires require your wife's consent to participate, and she doesn't want to do that, whereas her's don't require your participation at all. Look, I'll be blunt, I think you are...

My partner made me a beautiful card for one of our anniversaries, which among other things, listed a bunch of things that she found really special about me and our connection. Earlier on in our open relationship, it was my 'go to' object whenever my brain weasels decided to get agitated. It was...

It sounds like you guys have some way to go before considering opening up the relationship. Trust doesn't get rebuilt overnight, and until you and he are on better footing, it seems like asking for trouble to consider either of you dating others right now. What do you need from him in order to...

Welcome! It can be a big decision for some to 'come out' as poly, but one of the bonuses of doing so in your case is that you might find it easier to meet other people you might connect with. Meeting people via friends of friends has always been a good method for me to date, but if no-one...

You dating someone who is pansexual does not make you any less of a lesbian. Having a straight male met amour doesn't challenge that any more than having a straight male friend in your life. Likewise, you dating multiple partners does not make you any less of a partner overall. I don't see how...

I'd say it's M's responsibility. If the other players don't like being involved in a cheating relationship, they should walk away rather than put pressure on M to disclose something. If I were being cheated on, I'd prefer to find out because my partner decided not to be a lying scumbag anymore...

You're not alone - one of the known tradeoffs when it comes to poly dating is that it massively reduces your dating pool, but that's the price you pay for authenticity I guess. I think it's normal to go through phases of having lots of interest and very little interest. Sometimes you might be...

I've been there and done it with reading my partner's texts without her consent, and I can honestly say, it's really not worth it. When it comes down to it, there are some things you just don't need to know about your partner and their interactions. Also, a lot of what is exchanged in...

I tend to feel similarly after my partner has come home from spending sexy time with someone else. Sometimes it just feels like she's different, or I'm different, and I don't feel as connected to her as usual. Although I try not to, I tend to express that feeling by wanting a physical distance...

I don't want to hear the intimate details of my partner's other relationships. The broad brush stuff? Yes, I'd like to know that. Things like whether she's currently talking to anyone interesting online, if and when she's looking to arrange a date or a first meet, a bit of a bio of who she's...

I can see how frequent communication and contact by text could be involved if the open relationship is there to help someone meet sexual and emotional needs. It's hard to be vulnerable and connect on an emotional level without contact. Especially if face to face time is limited. To me, open...