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I consider poly to be an "orientation" rather than a description of relationship. Even though I'm currently single (and WAY too celibate), I'm still poly and identify as such.

To me, I consider poly to be something of a sexual orientation, less of a lifestyle per se. That is, even when I'm in a single loving relationship, the intimate connections, the desire for other forms of connection, all of that stuff is still there. For ME, the difference between mono and poly...

When a marriage contract expires due to a sunset provision, is there a term for that within the poly community? I'm a poly anarchist and for obvious reasons to both anarchists and poly folk, having a marriage without the state's involvement makes sense. One thing that my community has done is...

I am an anarchist and as such have different political ideas, especially ones that conflict with the idea of the government educating children. Specific issues would be the teaching of "American History" with a focus on the establishment of government. People who believe in the valid existence...

You're not poly. Poly is specifically "consensual non-monogamy". What you're describing is cheating. The short version? Because in everything you mentioned you ignored "How Ned feels." You mentioned fear about going against societal norms, your feelings about Tom and Ned, et cetera, but not...

I'm iconoclastic and being poly is something I identify as. Just about everyone who knows me knows that I'm poly. "Are you dating" comes up in friendly conversations pretty often and it's usually a good segway.

To be honest, I've had this happen to me. It was a good friend who told me pretty bluntly "Your feet are rank and it's uncomfortable to be around you because of it." Sometimes a swift kick in the ass is helpful. I've taken a lot better care of my feet because of it.

Greetings. :)

This forums is about discussing polyamory. The focus here is very often on relationships with other people, especially more than one other person. I'm not sure if it's neglected, or if it's a given that's never mentioned, but the first and primary relationship must always be with yourself. No...

I credit the journey into an open marriage (and on my side, polyamory specifically) as what ultimately ended my marriage. Or more specifically, introducing other people into my life romantically and intimately, and my wife finding sexual satisfaction outside of the marriage, caused out...

I'm an ENFP. I think there's some relation. :P

In my life in general, I've found that being vocal about everything I am interested in has rewarded me. I'm openly poly in my life. I'm a political activist and don't mind talking about my philosophy. Both of those things are important to me so I mention them to friends, family or anybody else...

For me, it means something close to, but not quite "I've let down my defenses, let you see the real me. As crazy as I can be sometimes, letting those defenses down let us grow and bond. I trust you. I appreciate you. I am forever changed for knowing you and a spot has always been cemented in my...

I tie sex and intimacy. Sex doesn't feel good for me unless I know or am reasonably sure I'm brining pleasure to my partner. I like it vice versa too, knowing my partner is echoing and vibing off of my own pleasure. It needs intimacy, trust, concern, awareness of the physical and emotional...

I'm actually curious to why you say you're "not yet" poly. Poly is about relationships and love, not about sex. I even go a bit beyond that and say that being poly is about being open to many loves and once you've opened your heart and mind, you're poly. :) Welcome to the community here. I hope...

Welcome to the forum. I have a highly individual centric view of everything, including relationships. That doesn't mean I am selfish or apathetic, it just means that I realize that relationships are not things, they're the abstraction of how two or more people interact. Sometimes people get too...

I don't have many relationships to extrapolate from personally, but my experience is actually the OPPOSITE of your assumption, redpepper. When I opened up to poly, I was married and mono for years. My wife was more assertive in finding partners than I was. It was a little awkward at first...

I have to be entirely honest, given ONLY this post, I think you're being a little unfair to your husband and his girlfriend. That's not to say that what you're feeling is wrong or inappropriate - you feel what you do right now and that needs to be validated - but you seem to think that your...

Very much this. :) I recently had a (very short lived) relationship with a male-female couple that I walked into for fun. I knew it didn't quite feel right in the beginning but I let myself have some fun with it, see where we progressed. Feeling is a good thing. You learn about yourself and...

I haven't posted much lately. The last few months for me have been stressful and changing. After many years of marriage, my wife and I decided to seperate. It's entirely peaceful, amicable and mutual. It didn't come crashing home, we realized as we decided to get individual bank accounts that...