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Polyamory is, at least to me, a mind-word. I don't know how to explain the concept, exactly. My brain doesn't work with "words," it works with concepts, memories, experiences and all that stuff. So when I say "I am thinking about Bella" I'm actually thinking about all of the things that I know...

The fact that it's making you uncomfortable means it's crossing a boundary or violating a value. That's pretty much how I define "cheating". My advice would be to talk to your partner. Use a lot of "I messages". From your perspective, I know how it feels to have discomfort and insecurity and I...

Welcome Bella. :) I hope this forum helps you express and learn about who you are and what you want to be. Also... welcome to another New Englander. :)

To break down the inhibitions that prevent me from feeling with 100% intensity all the time. I'm a huge fan of Unschooling. And the term itself makes me smile. :) It's so sad to see this massive machine that is government schools churning out people who have no spark, no drive to learn on...

You're certainly a contrarian, Ceoli. :) I say that as a compliment. Thanks for challenging me on this. I thoght I'd made it clear, explaining "the talk" but perhaps I'm not. My friend isn't challenged by polyamory. I think he's challenged by how polyamory for me has caused me not to limit my...

Greetings, and welcome to the forum. I hope you enjoy what you find, and contribute yourself. :)

I'll add a different perspective that's on topic for this thread. I'm not into BDSM in the slightest, though my wife is. It's the primary motivation for her, and her sexual openness in terms of seeing other partners. I'm kind of "into the scene" because it matters to her, though. Glad to see...

I don't advocate for "equality" in the modern political sense. I advocate for "voluntary" and "consentual". I beleive every human being: child or adult, man or woman, gay or straight, asexual or pansexual, poly or mono, rich or poor - has the right to associate freely. I believe they have the...

You're dating in a pool of people with very diverse value sets. So I'll give you my take, given that I have a very... iconoclastic... set of values. Drugs are a product that people want and are willing to pay for. In the biggest case, some of the "illegal" drugs are safer than the legal ones...

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I think yes, there are. Though, maybe there's something more specific there, the idea of "defaults" create differences. Mono (on this forum) doesn't call himself a polyamorist but he recognizes that love CAN exist between two or more people without limiting or negating the love that those same...

I agree with you. I am poly, my wife is not. For me, there's amory with multiple people, for her, there is sex outside of our relationship. Our relationship is "open", but I wouldn't call it poly.

I've got to say, for me, this was the case. I think there are SOME people who can do DADT just fine. I mean, every relationship or group of relationships is different and should be honored. But for me, there WAS insecurity. My wife began exploring outside sexual partners because of a disconnect...

I'd like to say, for the sake of continuing discussion, Crisare, my inspiration to drop the DADT policy was you. I don't ask for specifics, but it's a world more communicative and honest and sharing than what existed before you and I had our discussion. There are some similarities between what...

One think you didn't mention is kind of at the root of my question, though I suppose I didn't mention it. As it stands NOW, I consider my primary (my wife) and she considers her primary (her BF) to be childfree. I have to admit, I'm a little buzzed right now and I don't feel like doing math, but...

This, at least on your side, is partly why I do NOT share specifics, or expect them. My wife and I have different sexual kinks. Maybe that's a bad word. Tastes? The reason we first began exploring poly (or more specifically, being "open") is that we have a sexual disconnect. She seems to see...

I'm not actually sure how I personally define it. I share everything with my wife except for sex. She's my best friend, my emotional companion, someone who shares my life goals. We're financially bonded, and this seems especially relevant to this question given its nature. I LIVE with my wife...

Primary/Secondary Partnerships and Kids I have to admit that I'm still slightly taken aback by how this question comes about, both because it so oddly echoes my personal experience and because it's actually NOT born of my own head. A few days ago, at a party for a mutual friend, this lady I...

Perhaps there are parallels to other people's stories, but basically, I'm a political activist. I moved from my place of work, life, love to New Hampshire as part of the Free State Project. (http://www.freestateproject.org/) It's a project to move 20,000 people to one place for peaceful...

I agree with this entirely, though... I think the SAME thing, voluntary contract, would handle the healthcare thing just fine. I'm gonna key in on the world "devised" and note the origin. It wasn't for corporate protectionism (whcih I agree is far too rampant...). The actual historical reason...