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    "Domestic Disturbances"

    One wonders (okay, I don't actually wonder) if they did any research at all. From my experiences, I've found the poly community in general, and the people I know personally, to be far more accepting of people that are disabled. I also have found far less ageism, both socially and in a dating...
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    hypocrisy

    Like I said, I have no issue with bi women looking for women only. It's the fact that they have an issue with other women that date men that confuses me. I should have clarified that these women listed themselves as seeking dating partners and as poly, as well.
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    hypocrisy

    It kind of reminds me of some of the profiles I've read on okcupid for women that say they are bisexual, but aren't interested in dating or even hearing from cis-gendered straight men. Okay, whatever floats their boat. And then when you read deeper or talk to them, they also have no interest...
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    Boston Globe Sunday Magazine: Love’s new frontier

    I was just about to post a link to this article. You beat me to it.
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    ladystuff

    There are non-hormone forms of IUDs as well that don't disturb your cycle. They can lead to increased bleeding, but I know many women that have them that say they personally don't experience that. The non-hormonal ones are considered to be one of the most environmentally friendly forms of...
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    ladystuff

    Slightly off topic, although it would probably get a similar amount eye rolling from our male counterparts .... I love my IUD. I got my Mirena almost a year ago and it was the best medical choice I ever made. Three minutes of pain and I have worry-free, nearly side effect free birth control...
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    OKC in the house?

    I had the same thought at first ... It makes much more sense now.
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    Imagine your ideal relationships.

    We joke about moving to a commune, but it's not far from what I'd want. Five or six adults all intertwined in some way, living together and supporting each other. Perhaps having children, perhaps not.
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    What do you do for fun & hobbies?

    I read, a lot, of almost everything. Sci-fi, fantasy, history, science, cookbooks, biographies and anything that catches my eye. I play RPGs, both table top and LOTRO. I like to cook, but I love baking. I crochet. In fact, I belong to a crocheting guild and have recruited others to join...
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    Where do I start?

    As has been mentioned elsewhere on the boards, OKCupid is, at least, accepting of polyamory. You can list your status as available, single or seeing someone. There might be some other options, as well. I've stuck to just messaging people that were available, meaning they have some sort of...
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    The amount of people here!

    Real life kept me busy for the last few weeks and now I'm reading posts and going who is that and where did they come from? I think it's awesome. More people = More ideas = More advice.
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    Have you always known if you are mono or poly?

    For me, polyamory was like the key to a lock I didn't know I had. It was the acceptance that it's okay for my life partner to not fill all of my needs. It was the acceptance that I wasn't a bad person for still crushing on people. And strangely, it has allowed me to be open to make new friends...
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    Boundaries vs. Coercive Manipulation

    I personally couldn't deal with someone that had boundaries that didn't make sense, because honestly, I feel like I would be the one that ended up hurt and alone in the end. Okay, maybe not alone, but without that partner. I think you three should sit down go through all of your feelings and...
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    Poly-Dating: How to meet like-minded people

    I'm liking OKCupid, but I just recently made a profile. There seems to be no shortage of poly and poly-friendly people on it. And I find that rejection hurts less online. If they ignore my message, well maybe they aren't interested in meeting anyone. Or at least I can delude myself of that and...
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    Missing Normal...Struggling, Loving and Learning

    Mono, I hope you read this or Redpepper lets you know what I've said. While I don't post much, I read the forums every day. My journey into polyamory is new and your voice in it has been very important, because in many ways, you are just like my husband. He's mono and probably always will...
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    Missing Normal...Struggling, Loving and Learning

    I couldn't agree with this more. To be normal is to be accepted by nearly everyone for what you are, without having to explain. While I don't want to be anyone other than who I am, that does sound seductively nice. Good luck on your journey, Mono. Self-discovery sucks until it's wonderful.
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    Moving a far away partner into your place

    Even though I knew him for two years beforehand, I'd only started dating my husband three weeks before I moved three thousand miles away from him. With my car packed, in the parking lot of his building, I asked him to move with me. Not exactly the most rational thing I've ever done, but I...
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    OKC in the house?

    I just made a profile. All of this new-fangled technology is both fascinating and frightening. I used to think internet dating was creepy, but now I can sort of see the appeal. My username is rubyfisch, because rubyfish was taken.
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    Why do you use the online name that you use?

    Mine's brand new for this forum, but I think I'll keep some variant of it. I've been shedding a lot of my past lately, old pain, old futures, old ideas and somehow, old screen names. I came up with rubyfish really late one night and still am not quite sure where it came from or how much I like...
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    Family - The Web Series.

    They've made about a dozen episodes. The edited versions are on youtube if you search for "family polyamory." When I was first trying to understand my feelings about loving more than one person, I went to the internet to find someone like me. That show was one of the first things I stumbled...
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