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I agree with you after having this experience. While three of us were like, "Hey, this could work," the fourth totally blew up, and now we aren't even friends anymore. It wasn't just the quad thing either, it's not like anyone was "insisting" on that, but since we hadn't known about the...

Exactly Dagferi! We are all busy, J and I have three kids, Nudge has a spouse and various hobbies/activities to take his time and also values alone time more than i do, but we see each other anywhere from 1 to 2 times a week depending on whats up. one thing i like a lot is that we set tuesdays...

Good luck to both of you....I can tell you that 3 years after getting past an affair, my spouse and I did become successfully poly. I have a great boyfriend, and spouse is dating (promising date this week! yeah!) My advise is if polypaganher needs to go slow, keep the same boundries as for...

Hi, :) I think what you'rr feeling is normal. Jealousy is the hardest part to over come when being poly and having a metamour. My big thing with jealousy is this-- are you actually upset your partner is doing something, or is it just that you want to get to do it with them too? Take the...

GG says some great stuff, I second what she's said to you. My husband is also in grad school and and we have three small kids, I know how tough time is but time as partners (not just parents) is still really important. Okc is tough, spouse has been on it for a while and nothing's panned out so...

wow...im sorry youre going through this. it sounds like you and your wife really really need to talk, sounds like you need to express your needs and try to have them met. figure out where each person is coming from and go from there. I know having some time as the two of us is crucial to spouse...

My boyfriend, nudge, recently joined this forum and spotted me so we had the discussion (right after i said ,Dont read my old posts!! ha) that he would post what we wanted to, but tell the otehr not to read it if it was inflamatory and if that person chose to do so anyone, that was on them. I...

London, well i meant it as a form of discussion...if I might be pushing my boyfriend for discussion a little, he can tell he hes uncomfortable and tell me to stop and i'll listen, maybe he doesnt mind going outside his comfort zone a little but he'd have to tell me if i was doing something that...

Well, yeah. Less likely if you only sleep with them once or twice, and dont hang out a lot. If you start spending time with, getting to know, AND having sex with someone, of course you can have feelings for them. I started falling in love with my boyfriend when we were friends hanging out...

I was assuming because she mentioned long distance, so i figure it was actually at college. i could totalyl be wrong, my husband is also a student and in his thirties with children

You have to make the time....heck i have a spouse, three kids and a dog and i still see my boyfriend at least once to twice a week. ;)

I do think about the middle part there, my boyfriend (also married) doesnt wear a ring, and I do, so sometimes i do dislike it that it may look like we are cheating. As for my spouse with his date, he has no intention of decieving her (shes been on his profile that says hes poly) i just...

so all of you are already talking about wedding rings here....my spouse has a date on thursday, his OKC account plainly states we are poly but he wants to broach it with her in person. I suggested maybe he not wear his ring...thoughts?

Vexxed, but its kind of funny that this was your comment in response to Nudge, cause he is in involved in a relationship with me. lol. Im made this post originally cause Im just curious about other people. I tend to share a lot and ask questions a lot, but unless the other person is super...

If you are married to M, figure our where you and M stand and what you both want. I'm getting the impression maybe you guys don't want to be married anymore?

My advice is talk to your partner, THEN your love interest. I'm if reading this right, you plan to talk to new girl first. This could make your already insecure partner more insecure and angry. When I approaches my spouse, I new my bd was interested but wanted to come from a place where I wanted...

I don't know... I guess when I don't know things, my imagination runs wild. But you're right. It shouldn't matter. I think it's just an internal quirk of mine that I need to quiet down.

Nudge, interesting point. But really, you can't expect people not to share experiences they are involved in with other people, if it somehow affected them. I get what you mean if it's solely about the other person. But you know me... I'm probably TOO open, and could stand to use a little of the...

you say your in college, college is all about experimentation. go to parties (responsibly) talk to people, etc

This too. While my boyfriend and I have been togther 5 months or so, we;ve known each other for years and my children and spouse had met him before we ever dated