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Was talking with Joe today and he said a couple things: 1. That he has had to change the mindset he had from when me and Pea first started dating; that it was just he (Joe) and I, and that whatever was going on with Pea didn't really have to do with us. Joe said now he sees that all three of us...

ur wife is being a shitty hinge (not dealing with bf problems herself) and she needs to figure this out. if bf's complaints are being brought to you, my guess is she's throwing her hands up and blaming you when bf gets annoyed that they can't be more 'spontaneous', when she's already made...

Pea has been talking about an alaska ski trip 🤤 and we had all been talking about a trip to hawaii before my parents suggested this. We have no shortage of vacation ideas for the three of us lol great plan yeah that makes sense. i think this is along the vein of not wanting to owe anyone...

For sure. like, if everyone there already knows, then I'm just ... pretending Pea doesn't exist so everyone (especially my mom) can feel more comfortable...? If there's space for everyone then what gives? Everyone else's family is 'acceptable' but not mine. I know my mom is aware that this is my...

Yeah trying to separate what is my parental weirdness from what is actually going on is a continuing problem. I mentioned how the sleeping arrangement was odd considering we'd all be paying the same and my parents were like "what no that was a joke" but ... I'm still not certain since no...

I always love how all or nothing you are Kevin :) sincerely haha. if i had more cojones i would take your advice more often. I did talk to my mom about this just now and she was pretty level headed; I was very frank about how i was feeling and she just made the point of not wanting to "send the...

upon rereading the entire post i think this is a great idea lmao I just don't get to see my nephews or sisters often. this was a 'joke' that my dad made, that we would get the bunk room, but knowing him, i have a feeling it's not a joke. he's pushing me to see what I'll accept by saying it's a...

I wanted to put these thoughts somewhere, and I'm welcoming advice/thoughts so I figured it would be better suited for the relationships corner. For anyone who doesn't know my story, I live with 2 partners. My husband, Joe and I have been married for 4 years. Pea and I have been dating for...

struggling with guilt and anxiety today. I find it hard to accept that Joe and P really don't want to be with anyone else (for now) and sometimes feel like I don't have enough time in the day to be a good partner to both of them. I've definitely become a better hinge as time goes on. I'm still...

Saw no hard feelings with P last night. Two dates in two weeks! I feel spoiled haha Just finished reading Fleishman is in trouble. Really good book about marriage and love between two people. And middle age. And dating in the present day. Definitely reminded me of how young I am, but in a...

Also how can you raise a kid with someone else and only see them once a month? Or is she planning on raising her and old flame's child with you? Because to say that is a really big ask is an understatement. It seems like this baby talk could be some NRE weirdness that might fade with time, but...

It does affect you. If you are with a poly person, you are navigating a poly lifestyle. Even in the most separate and casual of circumstances (which it doesn't seem this is, since she's wanting to have a kid with old flame), there are situations you will experience that would not be experienced...

I actually think it's funny that my mom's habit of probing me on if I'm going to have kids has now evolved into her probing me on who I'm going to have kids with lmao I've been having a bit more serious conversations with P about this topic. It will definitely be far down the line if it ever...

The last few times I travelled were for family or for school, so I'm in the middle of planning a 5 day trip to costa rica with P in November, followed by a week long trip to greece with Joe. They'll be back to back which will be a tad bit hectic, but I'll just be using it as my fall/winter...

I was reading an article the other day that made the case that poly people are being snobby by saying swinging isn't polyamory. I am of the mind that they are two different things as well, but it was definitely an interesting read. Really got into the philosophy of love. I think that at some...

I agree with galagirl, the option should be there for you to be with people outside your marriage, even if you never choose to exercise it. That conversation will inevitably cause your wife to feel some emotions, and maybe it'll be good to remind her that not everything is sunshine and NRE...

Haven't been on in here in awhile. All is good! I have dealt with loss of a family member and a friend recently, which has been rough, but I've managed to find some positivity and I'm feeling very appreciative of life and grateful for my loved ones currently. I have been busy with funerals and...

heavy feelings today. just came back from spending time with family, which was nice but the travel was brutal and i have a huge exam tomorrow... a lot of my stress right now is probably stemming from that and some other shit going on. I haven't been seeing my therapist lately, which i think has...

not much has changed lol. been pretty busy and stressed this week, + on period so just a tad emotional. life is still really good! Joe and i are doing really well. I am curious to see how our schedules pan out once he starts at work again in a couple weeks. We got our concealed carry licenses...

Just hopping on this thread. Thanks for posting on this @DanCliffAsh. I don't have advice but I'm interested to see how it pans out for you, as I'm also interested in fostering sometime in the future. This kinda makes me sad but also isn't surprising. I'm sure a lot of social workers have seen...