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EMM, I can understand where you can get that from, but the truth is, i'm trying to find out whether i'm just being a chovenist by looking at other wemon. Genebean doesn't usually read my posts.

well, there it is, is it wrong to check out other people whil you're with someone? And if so why? Is it merely self conscienceness which makes the one you're with uncomfortable? Or something more?

Thank you all very much, there is some excellent advice here. We talked it out last night, and i told her it was not "all or nothing." I told her i was willing to renegotiate some boundaries, and in doing so, break down borders. But most of all, I let her know i love and respect her, and...

I understand, being a man, wemon just assume i'm a piece of shit who cannot commit and just wants to cheat constantly. And that hurts my spirit as well. It's disappointing to have crushes, and then have them crushed by being poly.

so, I have a question for all of you lovely folks out there when is it ok to stick to your guns, and when is it ok to bend? The girlfriend and I made a deal several months ago that at the end of august I could start dating etc. After talking about being poly for six months, we agreed upon...

I have two things to say on the subject, neither of which are immidiate feel good things: first, consider how you would feel if he were to be with you and texting to her all the time. A simple hello is the means to start a conversation. This brings me to my second opinion, tell him how you...

good for you, you cannot let others get you down for THIER insecurities. you are a beautiful and wonderful person, and no one can take that from you.

I've got a couple of questions as well. First off, how can you expect an "open and honest" relationship with someone who was cheating on his fiance with (at least) two other people, and who lied to you about it in the beginning? i guess I'm just not all that sure how you can expect honesty...

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Me too, i know i post here mainly when i'm upset or feeling a rant comming on, but i came to a realization yesterday after the girlfriend told me she was looking for another woman (long story, not bad though). Previously i would have been upset because of the inequality in our relationship...

hmm, LDR's are a tough one. I suppose you ought to really try to look at his side of things, being shy, introverted, and not previously interested in poly/openness, he has found someone he is finally comfortable enough with he can express that with. so much so that he is willing to bend for...

so it's been a while since i've posted, but that may be a good thing. I suppose it means no real drama has happened. over the past couple weeks, there have been some really good things which have happened. The girlfriend has started therapy to help her work out some issues, and I couldn't be...

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yeah, it's painful to bang your head against someone else's wall. But in the end, you are the one who chooses to bang your head, not them.

so I arrived at a conclusion this morning: there are times in life where we have to accept that we cannot help someone. They have to help themselves. it is difficult to be powerless, and watch someone in pain or anguish. Especially if you love them.

no, in terms of lying, we have an excellent track record. that being said, we do have a couple black marks here and there. Nothing major though. I'm interested to see how she reacts to me going to dance this thursday. Only time will tell I suppose. I guess i'll be just as interested to see...

so here's what happened last night. (let the judgement begin) when I got back from dance yesterday, I was in a rather good mood. (i usually am after a good workout like that). Genebean got home a short time after that, and wondered why I was in such a good mood. She asked me if I met...

ok, this is definitely one I would like some responses to. so here's the deal, I take ballet lessons, and most of the girls there are your stereotypical ballerenias (probably spelled wrong). This makes the girlfriend jeallous. She's afraid i'm going to run off with one of them because she...

my apologies, merely my interpretation. my self esteem is the best it's been in my life. it is and almost always has been pretty good. I'm a little confused as to what makes you believe differently. the reason I'm not demanding a completely equal relationship right now is not because she...

well, unfortunately I can't just bark orders at someone to get what I want. It would certainly be easier if I could, but I can't. She knows what I want, but I have to let her deal with her issues before that can happen. My problem is how to do myself justice in the mean time.