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Is your relationship structure a triad, where you and your husband and your best friend are all 3 dating each other, i.e., you are sexually and romantically involved with your best friend? Or does your husband have a relationship with you and with your best friend, but you and your friend...

I think most monogamous people would assume that they aren't "enough" or are not "good enough" for their partner if their (previously monogamous) partner suddenly announced they want to be poly. The best way to avoid that is to be open about being poly or non-monogamous right from the...

I can understand why you have heartbreak and whiplash from this. Her behavior has been confusing and you don't have any control over the situation. But she sounds full of a lot of unhealthy contradictions and unnecessary drama. She had to stop seeing you for personal/health reasons, but she...

This is interesting and I get what you're saying. Nonhierarchical poly can include relationships that are less entangled and have natural limitations on escalation--for example, someone you see once a month with no plans to live together because you are each already living with someone else and...

You and Emma should probably both sit down with your son and explain what's going on. He still suspects you're having an affair, probably.

"Hotwifing" might be the more applicable term than cuckoldry. The cuckold kink involves the husband being aroused by the humiliation aspect of the wife being sexual with someone else, whereas with hotwifing, the husband is aroused by his wife's sexual activities, but without the humiliation...

Just a question for Serenity. Why do you also have to date the woman your husband loves? Are you attracted to women? Is she? Are you attracted to each other, compatible, and actually interested in dating each other? Sometimes people who are new to poly think that poly means threesomes or that...

It's possible Kaitlyn feels more relaxed about sex now that she is on birth control? Maybe it's her natural horniness coming into full force rather than a hormonal change that quickly. It's sweet that you miss sex with Emma so much. But, since one of the reasons she wanted you to have other...

Hmm, no definite conclusions after about 15 years participating in this forum and over 20 years of practicing non-monogamy! My main thought is that the way monogamy is currently practiced (at least in mainstream US society) is unhealthy and needs rethinking and reframing. Not necessarily that...

I don't know who Kat Woods is or why I should care what she thinks, but I do hate the format of social media posts for discussing deep, nuanced topics. Just makes it seem glib and flippant and click-baity. Although I appreciate the cartoon that poly people are more likely to be staying up all...

When someone says that they identify with Travis Bickle (the protagonist of Taxi Driver), I tend to suspect that further conversation won't go very well.

I appreciate that you are bothered by the hypocrisy of not being willing to do a MFM threesome for her benefit when she says she's willing to do a FMF for your benefit. However, since she is not at all interested in a MFM threesome, it's a non-issue. She doesn't want extra dicks in the bedroom...

Yes, I used to enjoy Marcus' voice here. I do think the use of "nesting partner" is a trend and is on the rise. But I don't see it as a bad thing. I think it fills the need for poly people to describe multiple relationships, one of which may be their live-in partner. Not sure why it can't just...

This is an interesting topic because relationship anarchy has always resonated with me. But it's not just a synonym for non-hierarchical poly...it includes a broader approach to relationships that doesn't automatically privilege romantic or sexual relationships, while emphasizing personal...

Confused, it might help if you gave your wife and her "friend" nicknames for this site, so you can describe things with more ease here. It could be names that aren't their real-life names, or words like Apple & Banana, for example. I understand why you feel so poisonous towards your wife's...

This is a lot of fighting and stress for only 3 months of marriage. Do you think you could leave him? Do you have somewhere else you can go? He does not seem very nice to you.

Does your partner seem like someone who would be open to sexual experimentation? Either trying new things with you, or exploring things with others? (I'm guessing not, or you'd have discussed it with him already). Is part if why you'd like an open relationship because the sex with him has...

You are very, very lucky that your wife is supportive of your new relationship and is on board with the plan for you to spend half your time apart from her. The biggest thing to remember in polyamory is to continue to nurture and grown your original relationship. Plan romantic dates and...

For a polyamorous marriage to work, your wife would have to actually admit that she is polyamorous and wants other romantic and sexual connections (even if the sex would remain just sexting). She would have to admit that she was more than "just friends" with the other woman and that she wants...

I'm confused about why you need to have a romantic/sexual relationship with Alexis. That's not a requirement of polyamory. Most poly people date separately. Why can't Matthew have a relationship with Alexis and a separate relationship with you? It just seems like you and Matthew are sort of...