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Ooooh okay! That makes sense as well; especially since tone changes everything too That's good that Renee was there for you to help you stay centered. I'm rpoud of you for being able to. I know that would have been a tough situation for me to handle and you handled it in a really positive way

Understandable! I don't always shower between B and Z; we all live together, and have had multiperson sex together; and consent to it. So showering that much feels so superfluous. Between partners who you haven't had that discussion with though feels wrong. But, you should also be having that...

Sitting them down is a good idea, you can't keep talking and not be heard; that isn't fair. TO me, Renee putting her hand on your knee and what she said sounds really patronizing, is that how it felt for you? Especially with Angela already being dismissive of the relationship you guys do have.

I totally agree that it isn't always easy for everyone. So many poly people talk about compersion as if it comes to everyone naturally, and poly is wrong for you if it doesn't. I am happy when my partners go on dates, when they are happy. But I don't really feel compersion about it. It's more...

I definitely agree. I know I've had to adjust my thinking for how my kitchen table works. I've adopted more of a; initial "kitchen table" meeting, a get to know if you all click as "tolerable for everyone". With Z, we had an experience that we all agreed made it a needed thing. He was on date...

Hi KDT I am also very much more so "kitchen table", it's what I'm most comfortable with, and not having it with certain people makes things weird and the relationship more difficult. Little things is what I feel most relationships are built on. You have to show that you're trying to keep a...

I want to start with saying I'm sorry for your loss and Im always here for you. I have also been where you are; and I only really processed it this year, 13 years after the death happened. Grief is something you carry with you. This is a normal reaction to grief. It is okay to feel these...

I'm also kinda in this camp. So, can someone correct me if my interpretation is wrong. We want to empower our partners to tell us their honest boundaries. We want to be empowered to do the same. I think part of the confusion on wording is how different people speak and interpret things. For...

I know that good and bad can come from a meta relationship! I would like to talk about how we all keep our meta relationships; good and bad, in a functional space? I know that it can be really good for a relationship to spend quality time with any friend one on one. For a meta you like, what...

All of this! Wait....what. People...people won't shower between (obviously unless it's a 3some because yeah...you're all in that together), but like....REALLY? I am shook

Most of the time, yes. Sometimes the foreplay and excitement will be way more pleasurable, even without orgasm, than PIV sex. Others, I just want the D haha, and that is the most amazing part. I'd imagine that part of it would be if you can only have clitoral or prostate orgasms vs if you can...

That's awesome! BE proud of yourself for that. From what I read, that's a step in a better direction. Do your best to not tae on her emotions onto yourself. I now it's hard, and I empathize with wanting to share things with your mom (I can't share my poly with mine either) It hurts a lot to...

Hi Pidge! Have you talked about this relationship before recently? Was the text just a confirmation? I'm a little confused, if you waited for his affirmative, then how did you miss the limitation he set? On one hand you're saying that you've done something wrong; but also are justifying...

For sure trying it is the only for sure way to find out if things work! I totally agree. I'd just advise to very much so go slowly. A third partner and a new baby in the polycule dynamics is a lot of change around the same time. Babies especially are such a huge time sink. It's always hard to...

This opinion may not be one you like. Okay; you agree that things are moving too fast. You now you're really in NRE. I really would advise to slow everything right down. Even telling them. Even the vacation. NRE is a bad time to make life changing decisions, especially those that involve...

Her communicating boundaries is good! She seems like a lovely person from your post! And, you asking to kiss her was lovely too! Never feel bad for that! I also kinda sensed a little fear, you not knowing the future or if sex will feel good or natural. That's definitely some heavy stuff. I know...

So have you found any more clarity? It's not super clear in your post. I can tell you have a lot of NRE right now, which is super natural; but have you been being introspective about your emotions and your time?

I totally have told them! We had a discussion around it to ensure we're all getting what we need how we need it. Then it occurred to me that there was a difference. Now I'm curious...do others have this? xD

I mean, to me this is kinda a sign that things really need to be talked about sooner rather than later.

I can see why this is really stressful and confusing. So many moving parts and emotions tied in. I hope I can help. I know having people you love in bad relationships is heartbreaking and stressful. IN those 2.5 years have they ever discussed going back to mono? Have they ever talked about, if...