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True. relationship structure and how people are wired are not the same. I was making a point about relationship structure.

I would give the same advice to a monogamous person wanting to open up about their new relationship to their kids. Take it SLOOOOW. If kids are "people", then treat them respectfully, including their crushes for as long as they have them.

While she may identify as polyamorous, her actions are not accoring to the polyamorous ideal of openness, honesty and concent from all parties involved. Cheating exist in mono and poly relationships alike, it is about breaking trust. If she wants to live a polyamorous lifestyle, she needs to...

UPDATE; I have made up my mind - I do think he is depressed or having a depressive reaction of some kind. We were planning our anivesery and, I thought, only looking at the logistics, when he started talking things that did not make any sense. I figured that, he doesn't really want to do this...

I LOVE this:)

Some of what is described in this thread souds to me like relationship anarchy. To me, polyamory is about romantic love - not even just once, but two times or more. There are grey areas between one night stands and romantically comitted relationships, but I have a hard time calling having lovers...

I am usually not that into love tatoos - and have seen more than one time that the relationship ends and people still have the tattoos... However, today I saw this wonderful set of tatoos that were not similar, but sort of part of a set... and I wondered: is the any poly "couples" (I don't...

I will suggest that you don't have drunken sex with this guy (at least for a while). That just reeks not being serious. Have a serious talk with your long distance boyfriend. Show him that you care about his emotions and the pickle you are in with you developing feelings for another guy.

You don't know how the pregnancy happened. Birth controls are not a 100 % effective. Oral hormonal ones can be influenced by digestion, all hormonal ones can be influenced by medication, some people are very fertile - there are even cases of people getting pregnant on IUD. And even if they were...

People can warm up to polyamory. My husband was very against it at first - well, part of the reason might have been that i was in love with someone unsuitable. As a starter, might he be open to discussing your attraction to others? That is how we began. I did not cheat, for 4 years I kissed the...

I was under the impression that FWB was a very loose thing, like doing it when you feel like it, like a scedule or not, very loose. You seem to respond more like you are dating him. Which maybe you are, or want to.

I understood that you meant talking about it for two months. But talking about what, that is the question, it seeems. The thread says "our family has begun", and you refer to him "moving in", but do you mean you are now open to the kids about the relationship and that he has started to spend the...

Both my boys are my primaries, although I currently live more with one than the other. I mingle economies with both of them. And the guy I live with the least and I have a cat together. There is no need to have hierarchies unless you want to.

Thank you. By the way, we have a cat that is with him. Our first cat died, but our new cat is actually our old cat's daughter. Also, recently a friend moved in with him in the flat. So he is not alone.

Thank you, all of you. I really appreciate you thinking of me! We had a good discussion about things today. We both hope that what has been the matter with him it is mostly reactive to his work conditions. His job will probably be over in 6 weeks and is already less intense, which gives us time...

My LDR of two years plan to move in with me and my husband in our two bedroom flat. Not permanently but to work in my town for a couple of months. We have not lived together all three of us before, but I had lots of visits, including a monthlong visit to him on 2 occations, also he came here for...

I really want to help my boyfriend. For a couple of months, he has struggled with what seems to me like a mental breakdown or a depressive reaction. I can see a change, he himself says that "of course I don't want to be this way. I feel like I have lost myself", his brother visited and left...

We have come out to some friends. But it is still an ongoing issue.We are careful in N's country for safety reasons. But some friends and parts of his family know. Nobody in L's family or mine knows, and it bothers me although many of our friends know. I feel like I am carrying this big secret...

I know 2 months of your new love seems forever, but for the persons involved who are not in love, 2 months is more like the blink of an eye. I don't care if they are home schooled, people need adjustment time and you seem so happy about their acceptance, while really you have not even provided...

I can't understand what religion that would encaurage her to go celibate indefinetely, while at the same time allows her to date someone who is openly having sex with other people. Is this a religion she made up?