My LDR of two years plan to move in with me and my husband in our two bedroom flat. Not permanently but to work in my town for a couple of months. We have not lived together all three of us before, but I had lots of visits, including a monthlong visit to him on 2 occations, also he came here for a month. The longest the tree of us have stayed in the same house was 2 weeks.
We have no kids. The plan is that I will have the bedroom, and the boys move between the bedroom and the office/guest bedroom every other night. We also have a kitchen, a big balcony and a spacious living room with a sofa bed. I think him coming here will be a bit strange, but after 2 years and many visits I do feel like I know him (we also Skype, but little these days due to his job), my husband have also met him 4 times. Otherwise I would not dear to have him move in. Also, for him to stay for more than 2 months he needs to be able to support himself! I am broke after 2 years of long distance visits, and he has loans that needs to be payed, so although I will pay his tickets and he can stay with us for free, I need him to contribute on food and everyday expenses. Before he comes, we will use our time and money to fix everything practical that needs to be done, so that life will be easier and he will feel more comfortable. He has his own friends in my town, and he will stay at work a lot, so hopefully our flat will be enough space for him. I recon that we sometimes will have the flat to ourselves because of my husband's shifts. We also plan to make use of cheap hotel rooms if we feel like getting extra privacy during his stay. He knows the location and original set up of our flat - in fact he viewed it with me instead of my husband (who bought it with me without having actually seen it). The area is close to the city where he will work, while at the same time being close to nature. We also plan to buy bikes that we all can ride. We all like and need a bit of privacy/solitude but we are also social.
We know how to cook: either me, or my husband, or my boyfriend and me will cook. Husband can't cook with anyone else, that doesn't work. But our taste in food overlap, an we enjoy eating meals together. Me and boyfriend like to make dessert, which we all like to eat. I like to bake cakes, none of the boys do but they will eat them. We are all rather clean and tidy people, although I do that handwashing and ironing. We all like biking, walks, dinners out and watching movies. Boyfriend and I like cats (and have one where he lives), husband tolerates cats at best although he can be charmed by them. We all like dogs although I prefer the fluffy or small ones. We all regard each other as family and are activelly planning a future together that, in some way, will include children and pets. We talk about our feelings and plans all the time, boyfriend says he likes our style of openness and honesty. Being open about our poly relationship is a challenge, especially vis a vis family, although we are working on finding a balance between discretion and sharing.
One challenge I see with him coming here is that he will possably work some evenings and weekends. I already resent my husband working some evenings and one weekend a month. I work mostly daytime and only occationally evenings or weekend. I figure we will need a good calender to keep track of when everyone will be working - as well as other things. I also think there will be some transitioning issues since he doesn't know the language very well and my country is still rather new to him. I will try to be understanding, help him with language and introduce him to our social network.
