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Crap! My edit didn't go through. It was NOT meant in a negative way. Darned cell phone

Well you know I had to Google it. I'm from the South & I'll tell you now this is meant in a negative context, bless your heart. I can't even imagine what it felt like at 17 to have a nurse do something like that. Thank you for your perspective.

Well I get only having one person in recovery. There are other folks waking up & not everyone handles anthestesia well. I think it was highly possible that when she tried to explain it he did not take it well. He was very loopy when we left the hospital with him. I believe the nurse who woke him...

So as an update to this thread. We made it through procedure #1. Pixie & I were both in pre-op with him. One holding each hand. They drove in together & I met them an hour later. When I joined them he of course wanted an intimate kiss. She laughed as I gave him one. When they took him back he...

I just love Pixie & Surfer. Over the next several weeks Surfer is having some medical procedures. Pixie had already asked if I would help care for him after as I have an opposite work schedule from her. I agreed as she needs to minimize her time away from work & I tend to be at least as stubborn...

As an aside, living in the same town doesn't necessarily make things easier. My BF & I both have jobs where we deal with the public. We also work in related indistries. It is inevitable that if we are out in our town we will run into someone that either he or I know. This jeopardizes our jobs as...

IMO it's not "their time." The only people that should have a claim on someone's time are children. Children have to be nurtured & tended to. Adults shouldn't. Perhaps a dedicated agreed upon "date night" with spouses could help. Now I will say that if you have a dedicated time with a spouse...

I'm in a similar quad situation but we live in the same city. The dynamic is the same, spouses occasional FWB, BF & I poly. We often do things as a quad but BF & I can travel or get alone time basically when we would like. Sometimes if he & I are out of town our spouses will go out to dinner or...

I may be way off base here but it sounds almost as if you showed up unannounced at his office. If that is the case then yeah, I wouldn't want you to know where I lived. Otherwise, being submissive doesn't mean you have to out up with BS. I agree with others, regardless of whether he...

I would say a positive. You totally have the right to be concerned about your health & emotional well being. There is not a poly manual that says you have to care about a metamour. Your concerns & feelings about yourself & your relationship with her are what matter. On a side note, many people...

Many, many people have HPV. I have a friend who has only been with 3 people. You guessed it. She has it. They way she found out was that her husband who has only ever been with her had a flair up with symptoms. She is completely asymptomatic. If you've been with 3 or more people odds are you've...

I have a BF (Surfer) who is married to Pixie. I actually met them on the same night. It was supposed to be just sex between us. They are/were swingers so outside sexual relationships were familiar to them, emotional not so much. After a few months Surfer & I both admitted we had fallen for each...

To me this sounds like it's almost a dangerous situation for you. How far will he take lashing out? Will he attempt to rape you? I agree with others, this is NOT your issue. Personally I would end the relationship & run.

I'm friends with my metamour Pixie. We've met for drinks when my BF Surfer was out of town. The two of them have stayed at our house a few times & we've stayed at theirs as well. We double date. This is the first time any of the 4 of us have experienced relationships like ours. Cowboy (hubby)...

Ok so BF will be known as Surfer, hubby as Cowboy & BF wife as Pixie :-) Hopefully that will clarify

Well things got interesting this past week. 3 weeks ago it was planned between the 4 of us that I would stay with B at the camper we all now share for 2 nights. He was there doing some improvements to the property & I had a function to attend nearby today. After the events of last week I had...

So I've made some bad decisions lately that were unkind to hubby (T). T's being upset with me upset (B) as he felt he influenced my actions. In truth he did but I was the one who made selfish decisions. It wasn't like he said "Hey, do these things with me & who cares how T feels." T & I have...

My 2 guys walk into a bar Or any other thing you thought you'd never say in a mono relationship. B accompanied T (hubby) to the gym tonight. I told B not to hurt himself & T not to let B hurt himself. I was afraid the testosterone might start flying although I know neither are typically that...

Oh & the relationship between T & C being FWB vs something more serious doesn't appear to be more stressful on T. It may develop into more but only time will tell. They care for each other & spend time together apart from B & I which we are perfectly fine with. No one expected that they would...

Magdlyn, The lack of arousal was an issue for about 3 years prior to our 2 year dry spell. I feel like the issue stems from a place where I felt very rejected. I lost my sexy & blamed myself. Attempts to communicate my feelings/needs fell on deaf ears in my perception during those years. I...