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Wow. Happy for all of you!

For a marriage to recover from cheating is already hard. For it to recover from cheating while making the cheating partner official? I'm skeptical. Several problems here. Recovering from cheating. You will be faced with a sense of betrayal to some or the other degree, and legitimizing the...

Isn't poly without informed consent on your part. Or better still, as Galagirl puts it, "Joyous YES"

I suspect I have completely missed something here, but it feels like you're trying to control your wife's sexuality and are excited by the challenges to your control of her the increased stakes with new guy imply and it is giving me the creeps. Mostly because I can't imagine someone discussing...

One view could be being upfront about these things. Another is that this is your business. From a practical perspective, I tend to think that if *you* like a guy, you need to tell him. After all, you liking him means he'd better be prepared to handle the symptoms :p

Is he part of the process or just another poly partner? From the sound of it, she is very much still looking for one-on-one closure with you. If at all it is closure. Being jealous if you have another relationship ain't sounding like seeking closure on her end. Sounds very much like a...

1. You don't sound over at all. You sound like things "ending" between the two of you is a new phase in your relationship and are disappointed that another person is a part of that transition, and you describe her as not prepared to see you love another. She also doesn't want to make decisions...

What she does after you refuse is her business. She may choose to heat food, eat it cold, go hungry - it is her choice and not a fault that she didn't heat it up. But if she is accepting when you say no, I'd say she may enjoy being catered to, but isn't going to force you to do it against your...

I totally hear you on the stopping drinking yourself. I did that once my then husband's drinking started getting problematic. I used to enjoy drinking earlier and still do now (though it took me almost a year before I had a drink after separating), but while I was with him, drinking simply...

It is a beautiful story. Quite insightful and respectful and accepting of both self and her. Out of curiosity, what sort of "that sort of help" are you seeking in therapy? Or maybe I'm asking what's the catch driving you to share it here as well as go to therapy over it.

I'm more concerned that you are judging your girlfriend about her behavior with her other partner and it is souring your relationship with her. I'm not one to worry much about how things "should" be between other people as long as they are working for them and no one is abused. Clearly your...

Not semantics. You defined your relationship with C differently from how you saw it because he wanted it. It isn't semantics whether you call yourself on with a partner or not - regardless of whether you are meeting frequently. It is another example of you saying yes when you mean no. You...

Sure, women do that too, but in this case, the choice to conceive appears to be mutual. Her boundaries being BS doesn't mean he isn't dropping his end. She has stated her unease repeatedly. She hasn't agreed to him getting into an entire new relationship because "love happened" - he'd asked...

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Been through similar situations with my partner and my ex-husband. Spexy and I went through exactly this. He got involved with someone. I guessed. Shit hit the fan. Later he pretended that he thought we were in a DADT and it took him a while to admit that he had handled things dishonestly. But...

But then you wouldn't be agreeing to monogamous phase in order to conceive little children with one partner, would you? If you read OP, they were monogamous for two years when he asked her if he could get involved with this woman who wanted to be with him "once"... which morphed into "I am in...

If you are at risk of ending up in a wheelchair due to your condition, and your husband who was enthusiastic about kids is now interested outside the home, it becomes all the more important for you to establish responsible behavior with regard to the home and relationships on the part of both of...

Your own boundaries appear to be total bullshit. 1. You need to stop saying yes when you mean no. No one else can fix this for you and it is looking like a dysfunctional pattern between the two of you. He wants to date a mutual friend while you're trying to conceive a second child. You don't...

Read OP. They are messaging each other with OSO making brief replies and not being averse to limited contact.

Mega hug and good luck. [if you have used real names accidentally, you may want to edit the post]