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Good luck :)

In your place, I'd give your wife the phone number of the partner and be done with it. Then it becomes your wife's headache how to earn a friendship she wants - which would have to involve way nicer behavior. You need firm boundaries. You appear to be going along with what your wife says and...

After reading the anniversary thread, I feel a need to caution against dealing with difficult feelings by manipulating others into not triggering them. For example, stringing together two anniversaries and and creating an exclusion zone between them. It will do nothing to improve your ability to...

It is hard to feel secure when your partner is chasing a cowboy who has pretty much declared his intentions, no matter her stated reasons and intentions. You can hang around and hope that she gets her head in order (which she may or may not) or you can move on and leave her to do it and find you...

I don't understand what you mean by "all or nothing". I am certainly not saying your other partners should be there while you and Dean have your anniversary dinner or something. I thought your question was about making two weeks exclusive between two anniversaries. This is what I was referring...

I wouldn't do it. To me celebrating a person means accepting them as a whole, not excluding important people in their life for a pretend exclusivity. You aren't exclusive, and if you don't like that about each other, reconnecting by revisiting a time when you were exclusive isn't going to make...

If you're suffering, then what is going on isn't right for you. You need to discuss more and figure out a comfort zone. I fail to see what hierarchy has to do with security in a relationship. If you don't know where you stand, that is him stringing you along by not giving to your relationship...

I suggest you speak with your wife. As someone who is very outspoken with a partner who is very reserved and finds it hard to speak up (whom I love very, very much), I can describe how issues work out in our relationship. He gives in to all my preferences, quietly getting unhappy till I notice...

Spexy has rented the flat next to mine. We live in an area where rent is cheap, so it is a good idea for us. He lives with us when he is here, but the flat is his space and available if either of us need space. So far, with him only visiting, we mostly use it to store extra stuff or for guests...

Ah. That explains much. This upends all the scheduling in a way, because Glasses not having a partner means you will not have as much privacy with Ponytail, plus will force Glasses and Ponytail together socially. Short of Glasses finding another partner with a place he can go to for sleepovers...

I think it is natural to give and expect support from a partner in a rough time. It is hard to imagine how missing her would mean he takes up more of your time. Generally people who miss would be obsessing over messaging/calls or moping and coping and generally coming to terms. People aren't...

Are you worried that he is concealing that he is already in an open relationship with you from the new person he is interested in and may be planning to or slide into a pretend or real monogamy with her? In other words, you being hidden or replaced or otherwise diminished in his love life?

MF1992, in your place I really would not do this. ALL the posts on the thread have the same concern. And this is a poly friendly place. No one is going to advise against unless it is actually a bad idea. This sounds like a particularly vulnerable time to introduce this sort of a change. Baby in...

Your assumption is incorrect. Feel free to read the link to check. The whole post was written by me and link pasted. I also later added "...potentially snooping partners with access to the WiFi router..."

I did say "compromised by a hacker within the proximity of the WiFi " no?

This is not sounding good. This is sounding like she appreciates your efforts but not you. Your effort is to get over your hurt and accept her while she does what she wants. It also sounds like you may not be asserting your boundaries. The status has changed. I will tell you how. You have said...

I am not there, of course, but from what you describe, his wanting poly for himself is not sounding hard to believe at all. His reaction when you mentioned it - as you describe it - was that he'd get to flirt with other women :p In a way, his interest is good news for you. Though of course, not...

Belgian researchers have found that WPA2 encrypted WiFi can be compromised by a hacker within the proximity of the WiFi allowing WPA2 encrypted data not secured by further encryption to be compromised...

Ah ok. That makes a lot more sense. So you're starved for easy companionship beyond your partner with the ghosting issues as well. Maybe it is worth experimenting with expecting that to see if it suits you better. This post comes across as you needing someone who really understands you and...

You have one child, are due to add a baby. In one month, you are going to have your hands full and sleep deprivation and he is going to have to juggle sharing responsibility for a newborn and NRE with whatever new relationship/s he forms. Additionally, you've had trouble with PPD before. Have...