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It's been a year and a half, and my relationship with Mal is great. My relationship with Djinn however has become more and more of a struggle. More for her than me, but I'm definitely at the point where she triggers me too. At Christmas there was a miscommunication/realisation of a long term...

I'm listening to More Than Two right now, I read it when we first started on our poly journey, but it's very different to listen to it, and to revisit it after a couple of years (almost) of experience. One thing I heard loud and clear this time was how important it is to have poly role models...

... And the broken leg has me humming that song constantly. Video here: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8-YvO_k03-s Paint Your Wagon (which the song is from) was one of my favorite movies as a kid. It certainly affected the way I think relationships could/should be! No wonder I ended up in a...

Well, I think that Mal and Djinn's marriage is in its death throws. She has been sleeping downstairs in the separate apartment (with Aladdin) since a week before Christmas. She and I aren't relating well either, I spent the week before Christmas there, and we had a... misunderstanding ... about...

Well, bit of a shock tonight... Mal told me that Djinn and Aladdin have not only still been having sex, but that they have been having unprotected sex in spite of multiple conversations between Mal and Djinn about being safe being a priority. This has been going on for months, and probably all...

I've been under the belief that if she said she was ok that she was. She says that she kept offering time for us to spend together because she thought we wanted it and she wants us to be happy, but she wasn't really ok with it. That she was trying to be the 'perfect poly partner'. But that she's...

So I'll preface this with saying that I don't feel like we are having a problem, and I think we are moving along at a nice pace. The NRE is wearing off. We are finding patterns that work for us. It feels nice. And stable. And most of the time it even feels easy. All three of us do really...

So Mal and I have a visit planned for next month. And now I'm looking for "things to do" in my city while he is here. I want him to get to know my city and the things about it I love... which include certain art forms (the gallery, the theatre, the symphony, etc, etc). One of the things to...

I'm a bit of a read-a-holic, and since we got into this relationship I've been reading everything ever printed about poly (ok, not literally, but I'm working on it). This book has bugged me from the first, I'm about half way through now and the hierarchical assumptions and assumption of couples...

Anyone using this? Thoughts? http://www.thepolylife.com

http://www.cbc.ca/thesundayedition/features/2014/12/21/wonder-woman/ I haven't listened to the whole thing, but so far I'm not greatly thrilled about how they are portraying William Marston's poly relationship ("he had a wife... and a mistress at home to raise the kids"), but it IS a mention of...

My BFF/ metamour has a habit of saying things like "I'm going to be busy next weekend, you should come out and see [partner]. He can't come see you though, I need child care" I'm pretty sure she means it in a 'hey, there's some time here, just so you know' kind of way, but it always strikes me...

I really want to pick nicknames for my partner and metamor (my BFF)... But I'm not very imaginative... So I notice a good number of people use initials, and think, ya, maybe, but literally everyone in the relationship has the same first initial, except me (and their daughter who shares mine, and...

I've been worried about posting about this here, because of how negative some posters were about how my poly relationship started. But much has changed since that beginning. My best friend has turned out to be an incredibly supportive metamour, and her and my relationship is stronger than ever...

Hi again, so I am slowly, carefully, moving forward with a relationship with my bff's husband. (For review purposes: she and I have been friends for about 30 years, they've been married for 15. They were open, and she more or less set us up, and then had a bad reaction to the idea of 'poly', but...

I'm having a hard time with the lines between casual, FWB and poly. The couple that I am/may-be/may-not-be involved with have had a 'situationally open' relationship, and I've been her best friend for almost 30 years, so have known him for a long time too. While I was visiting their home he...

I don't even know where to start... 28 years ago I met a girl. We went to school together, and she was my best freind. We drifted in and out of each other's lives (she moved far away), and so I wasn't around when she met and married her husband 15 years ago, and she want around when I had my...