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Yes. I had this discussion a while ago on FB. Solo isn't about never living with partners. Life happens the way it happens, and sometimes that means you compromise :) if a partner needs a place to live I'd be happy if it was with me if that was the best logistical choice. I just don't expect, or...

Made a playlist from the last few seasons of Supernatural. Been playing on repeat for weeks. :) I may be a little too in love with My Wayward Son... But anything is better than listening to Banks, Waiting Game on repeat which is a sure fire way for me to run the crazy train up to full speed!

I am heterosexual. For me, that means I am attracted to cis men only. I ID as cis-female, but I definitely have a "masculine" side that I am not afraid of showing. I too am sapiosexual. I definitely want a guy who is as smart or smarter than I am. Great philosophical conversations a...

This.

My ideal relationship would be that all people involved in any way are sane (most of the time), consent to the relationship, and find safety, support and joy in the relationship. Form MUST follow function, or you get misery, IMO.

I think it depends on how the mono defines their version of monogamy. I'm monogamous. I have zero interest in having another partner, but my partner is polyamorous. But I'm a poly-friendly mono person. I like that he can have other partners, and does, both serious (Djinn) and fleeting (casual...

I'm like that too. Close the door and poke food and medications in at me at appropriate times and I'll wake up when I'm better!

Just a drive by posting to say we are still here :) Mal and I are going well. We have weekly phone dates on our calendars now because we found we were taking contact for granted and it was slipping away (not lack of interest, lack of time and full trust that we'd be ok even with a gap). But...

I told my therapist just about first after we started our relationship. I thought she wouldn't be supportive and I'd be looking for someone else. Turned out that she has a niece who's poly, and was already doing the readings to see what it was all about :) she's been incredible. And I'm so glad...

She has a very low limit on my card, and has never even approached it. So I'm not worried about it. It's not that I don't like her, I'm just really confused about her actions/behavior. I've not changed how I feel about her. :(

No, we don't share finances (beyond a credit card she has on my account), I do earn significantly more than they do (3/2), and right now she isn't earning at all, so it is all Mal's income. When she starts earning again it probably still won't be much as she has no desire to work full time...

Yes, things like that. My heart rate spikes and I almost go in to fight/flight. Like the other shoe is going to drop, but its not a shoe it's a boulder.

I hope not too. I know she is a very passive communicator, always looking for the message behind the words. Mal and I are much more direct communicators (I'm working on it and have been for years, he was raised that way). So I know sometimes she "sees" things behind the words that just aren't...

Search here, there's more than a few threads on this topic. And read up on LDRs in general poly and mono LDRs aren't that different! We text a lot, email when needed, phone when we can and visit at every opportunity. The costs are prohibitive, so I got a good rewards card hooked to my...

Good advice. As always. Thanks!

Billie wouldn't come (some her/me travel stuff, some she doesn't like Djinn). I think Djinn thinks point one, and three. I think point 4. And I did ask Kid2, he wants to go, but he's never been to a theme park, and has no idea. I go every few years, and adore it. Djinn has been once and found...

Yes, pretty much. I always said (from 2011 on) that I thought it would be fair if Mal got to take Kid2. She just never heard it I guess. "Take them" to me does imply she wants me to pay, and I have paid for travel before, but I didn't pay for Kid1 to go, and don't want to be obligated to pay...

It's been a year and a half, and my relationship with Mal is great. My relationship with Djinn however has become more and more of a struggle. More for her than me, but I'm definitely at the point where she triggers me too. At Christmas there was a miscommunication/realisation of a long term...

I'm listening to More Than Two right now, I read it when we first started on our poly journey, but it's very different to listen to it, and to revisit it after a couple of years (almost) of experience. One thing I heard loud and clear this time was how important it is to have poly role models...

Have a read through Bluebird's blog, she seems to have it all in hand. I remember that she has life insurance on all her guys, and a bunch of other stuff set up. Also (as an aside) make sure you insure the non-income earners too. If something happens to them you have to pay someone to do all the...