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Good quote. :)

Ok, so, I am super proud of myself. My husband has been wanting to try poly for quite a while, but I've been dragging my feet. Although poly interested me, I was letting fear get in the way. What if he finds someone and I don't, what if I get jealous, what if nobody wants me, blah blah, blah...

Good advice. Thank you. I have forgiven him. I understand everyone makes mistakes and it was stupid on his part. But, he acknowledges that and is seeking counseling to better himself. I can forgive him once, but I told him if it happens again I will not be staying with him. I'm really hoping...

Good advice. Thank you.

My husband and I live in a conservative area and are planning on going to couples counseling. Has anyone found it difficult to find a polyamory-friendly counselor in conservative areas?

My husband and I have talked about poly and agreed on rules. He broke a rule. How can I trust him again? We have very good communication and have talked about this issue a lot. The question I posed to him was, "You promised you would never ever do this, and I trusted you wouldn't. But, you did...

I am from Wisconsin too. Feel free to send me a PM. :)

If you ever want to talk feel free to send me a PM.

I COMPLETELY understand. I'm new to this too.

I think by my parents/family and the media I was kind of brain washed into monogamy because I didn't know any other way. Before meeting my husband I was all about monogamy. When he told me he was polyamorous and I began learning and understanding polyamory, I realized it fit me. It's only...

I highly suggest meeting her. I was having jealousy issues of the other woman my husband was in love with. It really helped meeting her. Before meeting her I kind of put her on a pedestal. Meeting her and getting to know her, I realized she was human lol and a very nice person. It helped a lot...

Has anyone used polymatchmaker.com?

Books about jealousy Can anyone recommend a good book about coping with/getting over jealousy?

What would a baby step be?

Wow, thank you for sharing the article! Looks like I have been trying to overcome the wrong thing. What I thought was jealousy was actually envy. That's really going to change how I approach things. It's kind of mind blowing because I always thought I struggled with jealousy, but envy fits so...

How do you know when you're ready to go from mono to poly?

I would love to learn more about people's experiences making the leap from mono to poly. Is there already a tread about this?

Are people who are naturally poly naturally not jealous, or do they have to work at it? Why would you want to be poly if you experience jealousy? Is it possible to go from jealous to not jealous? Are the people who experience jealousy just trying poly because perhaps a partner came out as poly...

@genebean: Before we got married we had a serious talk. I asked him if I decided poly wasn't right for me if he still would want to be with me. I would never want him to feel like he was missing out or that I was depriving him of something. If he would have rather been with somebody who was...

I am mono and my husband is poly. He has been in both mono and non-mono relationships and said he is happy in either. Before meeting him I was completely mono and didn't think much about poly because it never came up. When I met him and he told me he was poly I had so many emotions going on. I...