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They could just hire a sex worker. I personally don't understand the desire to have sex with someone while avoiding emotional intimacy. But- I do think it falls under the "swinger" category, however most of the swingers in my area are seeking at least some emotional intimacy.

Yes! And you have come to the right place! I encourage you to read, read, read this forum! Welcome!

I like the idea of a LIKE button! I use it a lot on Facebook and my "friends" use it to let me know that they agree with a post or like a photo that I've shared!

I would suggest SLS.com for that.

There are so many more scenarios than those three things that you listed. And couples generally make it up as they go along so whether you want to do things together or seperately is completely up to you! That is the great thing about the lifestyle!!

When I introduced my primary partner to poly, we went through the swingers community first so he could have the opportunity to have some spontaneous sexual experiences with multiple partners. I am a social extrovert with lots of relationship/sexual experience whereas he is an introvert and...

Welcome!! It seems like you have been willing to go through great lengths for him, but you are not likely to do that for yourself?? I think it's cool that you "untrained" him and everything! And I understand how much energy something like that can take. Just wondering why you wouldn't go...

In my experience, there are many couples and singles in the swinger community that are looking for personal connections. There is an assumption that is made about swingers which is simply not true in reality. I actually think getting into the swinger community could be advantageous to you as...

Welcome! I hope you get as much out of being here as I have! The good thing about Poly is that there is no "right" way! The lifestyle is so open an since it can bring multiple people together it requires being flexible and open to understanding the thoughts, feelings, beliefs, intentions...

Welcome to the forum! There are lots of supportive people here- people living the poly life and there are just as many ways of living it as there are people living it!! A hierarchy can link entities either directly or indirectly, and either vertically or horizontally. So- for example, "peers"...

I agree with the above 2 statements. But, we are all different and we get to figure out how this is going to work for us and for me--- I to like to have a friendship or shared social life with a metamour or metamours. It is not something I would try to force- sometimes there is no interest...

I just wanted to share my experience with a guy that I see and his wife....I call them Lee and Judy. First I want to start out by saying infatuation and NRE are one thing. But a lasting love is something altogether different. And- in my opinion, it takes time to realize whether a relationship...

You know what KyleKat- You're still really young! You have a lot of time to tweek and hone your relationships skills. The earlier, the better for some, but even with that, it's good to be gentle with oneself! I went into therapy for the first time when I was 27. After a year of therapy, I...

I would suggest that you work on this. "Falling quick and hard" is something that our culture and society has promoted and supported.....( you just have to listen to the radio and watch a few movies). In actuality- we each have control of whether we "fall" or not and if we do decide to...

I met my primary partner (and several other guys that are still in my life) on match.com but we were mono minded then and I wouldn't go there now. I have met people through okcupid and SLS. My SLS profile says that I am looking for meaningful connections. I get hundreds of requests per year...

Hello and welcome! I have been participating in online options for meeting people for over 10 years. Bottom line- for a married poly male wanting to meet available partners, you pretty much have to try a lot harder (than an available poly female for example) and one of the best ways to meet...

The interesting thing about poly (for me) has been the fact that no matter how much I read about other people's way of navigating the lifestyle, the bottom line is that there are no set rules. This is a huge advantage for me because I am tired of operating by relationship rules that society...

"You have hit the nail on the head but unfortunately she is not even slightly receptive. I have let her go and am coming to terms with her anger towards me although I hold no grudge against her. I feel bad that I brought her into this not really understanding myself but I cannot undo the past"...

Yes- we know what you think. And yes i am being judgmental of you- but you didn't just join today and I'm not giving you advice about how to run your life. And I'm (in general) pretty compatible with INTJs being an ENFJ myself. I have no problem with people expressing their opinions bluntly...

He didn't say he was here for advice. He came here for support. It seems like you are projecting all of your stuff onto him and you're not even listening to him. You kind of attacked him right away. I'm sure you have a lot to share that would benefit others, it just may be more appreciated...