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Welcome to the forum! I have gotten a lot of support and feedback here and it has really helped me. I suggest you do some reading since there is a wealth of information here- all written by people who are either living a poly lifestyle or trying to understand it. I think the most supportive...

I don't mean to be negative, but you may find that you are going to have disastrous results again. As a female who enjoys and pursues relationships with couples, I can tell you that when the couple is having drama it is going to affect you. And if the couple is dysfunctional, the relationship...

One of the things you could do about loneliness is meet a few people with the idea that you may actually enjoy having a relationship with someone else also. You seem to enjoy polyamory so far- maybe you could consider taking advantage of the poly lifestyle by enjoying the love of someone else...

Sounds wonderful!!! Thanks for sharing!!

He obviously doesn't feel the chemistry between the two of you. In my experience, you can not create chemistry when it is not there. Bummer. :( But hey, it happens.

That's great! You know what you want. I guess what I'm saying is that in the process of finding "the couple" for you, you could date a variety of couples, rather than "settling down" with one right away. This process of dating a variety of couples might also help you value yourself more.

Welcome to the forum! There are lots of supportive people here! I have never worried about whether the world is "ready" for a lifestyle choice I have chosen- I just move forward anyway. My Dad passed away recently. Attending the funeral were my male partner of 10 years, my ex lesbian...

Unfortunately when a single woman gets involved with a couple, she is basically the outsider. That is just a poly fact, and the sooner you can get that, the better, because you can adjust your expectations accordingly. You sound like you must be pretty young. I couldn't find any mention of...

The fact that Tom would even be in a toxic relationship with a person like Bailey is something to take seriously. It's a big red flag. I have been exposed to similar drama, and it was enough to make me walk away, even though I was madly in love. I am probably a good bit older than you, and I...

When it comes to authentic emotions, you don't need the "right" to feel them. Also- you may as well let go of the "shoulds" and "should nots" because normal human emotions don't follow a map. Actually they do- sort of. There are identifiable stages in the process of grief. Just do a quick...

The cool thing about this love style is that there is no rule book or manual, so everyone gets to make up their own rules. Whatever works best for them. Things have tended to shift a good bit for me. I entered this lifestyle as part of a couple. We desired "our third" because it is such a...

Things are good! Things are good in my world and I want to share that since I know how important it is to hear about successful polyamory situations. I am spending the day at Richard's house today. He is working in the winter garden. His 18 year old son lives here (he is a senior in High...

Update I haven't written in a while because life is good, but I realize it is encouraging for others to hear about poly stories where things are working out, so I decided to give an update! I am still seeing Richard and I love him deeply. I consider him my primary and he considers me his...

I probably wouldn't blame the therapist. They probably just brought everything to light, things that would have come up eventually, anyway. It is unlikely that divorced people would be able to get back together without actively working on the underlying issues that caused the divorce in the...

My doctor told me recently that sometimes herpes will just go away in around 10 years. I've also been living with Herpes 2 for a while and it's not really that big of a deal for me. I've never taken any pills, but I use a cream which shortens the time of an outbreak. I have a heterosexual...

Welcome! I hope you find comfort here. There are a lot of really emotionally mature individuals here- so I hope you are able to find what you are looking for. I read all of your posts and this is what I am hearing. You have realized and explained to us in detail of how severely...

Welcome! It's amazing how much support a person can get from an online forum! I hope you continue to share with us, and I look forward to hearing more. :)

Why does anyone else do anything else? Focusing on why someone else does what they do can be a futile endeavor and counterproductive to the health of a relationship. When I find myself obsessing and trying to figure out and control someone else's thoughts, beliefs, decisions, behaviors etc...

I'm going to jump in here because I would like to see where this thread goes! I do not have any "formal" understanding of D/s relationship dynamics, but I have had some conversations with a male friend who is a Dom in his relationship with a female partner and I found those conversations to be...

Hello, welcome back! I've gone away for long periods of time also and I've been back for a few months, reading and posting some. My life is pretty calm right now, not much drama, a lot going on, but things are going pretty smoothly!! Hope to hear more about what's going on with you.