Search results

This will be an important weekend for him and he wants all of his SO's involved. The clincher is that he has been involved with this woman for years, so there are definitely some strong feelings there. It's so weird. I think I could possibly be OK with some random girl, but when it comes to...

One more thing... your title says your BF won't let you go... are you sure it's not the other way around?

Are you absolutely sure you can't seek any other resources for a house mate? Every time someone on the forum has suggested that this is NOT a good idea you have become very defensive... I sense a very unhealthy co-dependency here and I think things would get really bad for both of you if you...

Well for those that have been keeping up... it appears that my "vibes" about the OSO were more accurate than I thought... so much so that she is no longer in the picture (shocking development). I didn't ask for too many specific details, but our guy felt like he had been "deceived" and knew it...

I totally hear you on this!!! Now that the NRE haze is starting to wear off, things are becoming much clearer to me, and I am starting to see his true colors (it's amazing what happens when those rose colored lenses clear up, huh?) I try to make it a point to weigh both sides of every argument...

I very well could be... as time goes on, I am not sure if I want to be chosen at all to be honest. Part of me feels like he is trying to change me and that is not going to work. As for me being competitive, I have convinced myself that I am better than the other woman (childish coping...

HAHAHA!!! I know! I know! That word still makes me blush a little!!!

Have you considered that you may be trying to place everyone together a little too soon? I could certainly understand the emotions you are feeling with seeing your special someone with an OSO... especially if the OSO is your best friend. Maybe discuss you spending time with each of them alone...

You know what? I've been going out with other guys the whole time I have been seeing this guy. He wants a DADT scenario when it comes to me, but wants me to hang out and have sex with his OSO. OK. I am starting to see a pattern here. I think I just answered my own question.

This is of course a spin off from another post, but I have been thinking about something for a while regarding my guy's OSO... Here's the deal... I am the "baby" of the bunch. At least 10 years younger than the other two involved in the "relationship" (she is actually older than he is). This...

I didn't get a soapbox at all... in fact, I totally get what you are saying. As time goes on, I am starting to realize that he probably is a little selfish. He obviously has an "ideal" (i.e. Hugh Hefner), and I am realizing that may not be what works for me. Since everything is SO new, I am...

That's just it. At first, I assumed that I would be OK with the mono/poly thing (being a new poly convert), and I was happy just dating other men and having no physical contact with them at all. However, I recently had lunch with a FWB that I have known for years. We never really took it past...

I recently ran into a somewhat similar situation. Though I don't have the time invested in the relationship that you and your boyfriend do, I was recently placed in a situation where I had to witness my guy penetrating his OSO in front of me, and it shattered me. I too am new to the whole poly...

I have been trying to wrap myself around this whole polyamory thing for a couple of months, and for the most part, I have been doing well. Outside of the "spontaneous" threesome episode with my guy's OSO (and the subsequent lessons learned), things have been going... OK. I wanted to get some...

Tough love... I LOVE IT!!! You may be right. I think I need to do a better job of putting my foot down about what I will and will not do then decide if it's a deal breaker. If it is, it will hurt like hell, but at least I know and can semi move away from this without being hurt too badly. As...

EXCELLENT Advice here! For the record, I am in my mid 30's, but have been in mono relationships all my life. Even in those I had trouble really voicing my needs and "went along for the ride". I see in this situation that I have to be absolutely up front. So far, I have let him know that...

Wow Sinew, you and I must be cut from the same cloth! I grew up in a household where I was the one expected to "hold it together" in crisis, and learned early on to push emotions as far from the forefront as possible. I am the woman who runs to the bathroom to cry, or has a standby smile ready...

Being so new to this makes it a little too easy to highlight the challenges, but I wanted to take some time to focus on the good things about the lifestyle and get some positive energy going. So here's what I like about polyamory: 1) Total honesty - This is the first time I have been able to...

and I feel a lot better. I laid out the boundaries I discussed in the Meltdown thread, and he was really patient and attentive. One thing he assured me is that he isn't going anywhere which is my biggest fear. He understands that both women involved are new to this, and since I am the "baby"...

I second that!!!! HILARIOUS!!!!!!!