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Yeah, some people who have kids bring them to the recess. It's called a "dance recess." And the whole idea that she has her daughter there leads me to believe there are a lot less sexy times going on for her than if her daughter were not there. Again, the main purpose to these recesses is taking...

Yes, I went to one last year. It's basically dance classes during the day, dancing at night. The actual intent is to learn and share dance skills, and then dance at night. Nakedness happens mainly during the day when it's hot, skinny dipping in a nearby creek or lake to cool off, that sort of...

I'm kind of freaking out right now because she's out in the woods with a few hundred dancers. (We met through partner dancing.) These events are known for lots and lots of sex that happens. She has texted me that she feels really at ease, and it's so hot that everyone's walking around naked. My...

Thank you, Verona. Although being honest and open about my feelings is scary, I do it anyway. Of course, I'm afraid of things being taken the wrong way, or saying the wrong thing, or the other person making judgments about me and the way I feel. But I've also found that, when I do bring up the...

Hello! I joined this site a few years ago, making one thread asking for advice. Basically, I was curious about polyamory and how to make it work. As I've explained to other friends, at that time I actively tried to "fit myself into the mold" of polyamory. Since then, I've really just chilled out...

Freaking awesome quote, NYCindie.

Okay, so, a new way of thinking: since H identifies as monogamous, and is seeing three men, logically she sees herself as still being single, then I should also see myself as being single, and should continue on the path I was on before, which was improving my confidence, connecting with people...

Oh, just to let you know, I went out with R, we had a really great time. We were very snuggly and cuddly. At the end of the night she asked me to come in to her apartment. We talked, and I told her that I was seeing another woman. She said she wouldn't be able to deal with it, so we left it at...

I wouldn't quite say it's so much that I want her to say "I miss you" in return. What bothers me most is that she said she would call me "early next week" (which is this week), and she hasn't. Now it's Thursday, and I've made last contact by asking her to call. Part of me tells me just to chill...

So, what I'm struggling with, is, isn't it supposed to be healthy to express what you're feeling? I feel all bottled up. Why is it not ok for me to express this? Why is it not ok for me to tell her that I miss her? Or that I wish I could be with her? My self-respect is telling me that I need to...

You're absolutely right, NYCindie. Thanks for putting things in perspective... yet again. In terms of defining things, I wanted to ask her things like, if she prefers that I contact her more often, or less often, or if I should just wait for her to contact me... that sort of thing. Do you think...

Thanks for the advice, NYCindie. It definitely helps. I sent her this Facebook message last night: "Hi H! I apologize if my last text may have freaked you out a little. I told you that it's very difficult for me to hold back my feelings. I felt that I missed you, and wanted to call just to say...

Anne, Thanks for the advice. I have planned a dinner date with R for Sunday. :) I'm actually pretty happy about it. As a reply to your post, I'd say I'm not exactly focused on who is making the moves, more like analyzing why things happened so quickly with H, and are going so slowly with R...

... Thanks for pointing out the inconsistencies. That is what I need from this thread and forum. I haven't actually started dating R, although we've hung out a few times. Each of our intents is quite clear, but it hasn't been formally expressed. I'm just trying to clear my head and make sure...

I suppose I meant more along the line of advances. R is good at giving confirmation that my advances are welcome, but doesn't make any advances herself. H has made nearly all the advances, and I feel like I was just bowled over (which I really like). As an update to my situation, I sent H a...

Good question.

I guess I should say I don't mind making the first move, but don't like it when I have to make all the moves. I like it when there are alternating advances. This gives me confirmation and feedback at every step. Otherwise, I feel like I'm just being a creepy asshole, going somewhere I'm not...

Ok, so this is my first post, after my self-introduction post. I didn't think I'd be posting so soon. I'm seeking some advice and opinions about whether or not I'm handling this situation well. I am a dancer, and I go dancing 3-4 times per week. It's a great way to meet people, and it...

Hi! I've just recently learned about polyamory and decided to join this forum. Just last year I went through a divorce after a 7-year marriage. I have been questioning everything I believe in. I think the biggest step for me was accepting my ex-wife for who she was, not being angry at her, and...