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I've seen it mentioned a lot here. I haven't read it yet, but it's on the "to read" list for sure!

Seems like we're taking a new approach on this - ignoring it. Maybe if we just don't make a big deal out of it she'll realize it's actually not a big deal at all. ...and monkeys might fly out of my butt.... :rolleyes: G knows I love L. She's not happy about this. Pissed at me, jealous, feels...

Agreed, tons of cultural studies, even some science like caloric intake, hours worked in a day, but I haven't seen any data on successful relationships and mating patterns. If you know of some, I'd LOVE to see it! :)

Due to the nature of the work that I do, it's sporadic at best. I haven't actually worked for two weeks. And for all but one night of those two weeks, I have been at home, with G.

Well, I hadn't set out looking to have feelings for another, just some "fun." A FWB was my perfect definition of a lover. L became something more, and very quickly. G is not okay with this. She's now saying that maybe this was all a mistake, that it all feels wrong, and we should never have done...

Talked with G quite a bit today. It's been difficult to find a chance where we can really talk. We're staying with my folks until we can move into our house next week. They're usually around, and so is our little boy, so that complicates proper communication. We don't even have our own room...

I definitely think that a variety of relationship patterns are natural for humans, including monogamy, poly, etc. Pretty much the only science we have on the matter are statistics regarding fidelity in monogamous relationships, at which we, as a species, tend to fail miserably at. If society's...

Good questions. Thanks for reading, and for asking. It helps me think of things maybe I hadn't thought of before. I'll do my best to answer. In terms of her insecurity, I think in this instance it was stemming from the whole feeling left out thing when I was working and apart from her, but I do...

Is your hypothesis then that human behavior is non-evolutionary? It's important to keep science value-neutral in order to better understand the world and our species. Setting out under the assumption that men and women are exactly equal in all respects is fallacious. We are a...

In some strange way, I think I'm more jealous about L than I am with G, and I'm not the jealous type at all. Maybe this is because I've had so many years with G and have been well reassured. I know she loves me and she'll always come back to me. L? Insufficient data for hypothesis.

Correct. Bonobos are about the only species of primate that have such open, plentiful, and unassuming sex. That being said, however, even ape species which are considered to be "monogamous" are often observed having incidental sexual contact with individuals who are not their mates, often times...

Things with G are coming along well, despite the fact that I've been under the weather. We had a fun time out on Sunday, saw a movie, and I secretly bought her a gift that she actually needed (sunglasses). This won a few points for thoughtfulness. I've also been writing her a song, and I sent...

Well, we have two cars, actually, and I considered keeping one in LA permanently, but I like having two when I'm home in SD. That way if she's at the store or off taking care of something, and I need to run out, I can. Cost of parking it in LA though would make it all pointless. Better to...

Yeah, "home base" is SD, I mostly work in LA, and sometimes play. Amtrak is great, but yeah, the trick is getting around once I'm there. Downtown, Venice, Santa Monica, Hollywood, Pomona... I have lots of places to be, and don't always know when/where. The plan is to buy a motorcycle and keep...

Well, now I may have an excuse to see her tomorrow night. A friend's birthday, and G doesn't seem keen on driving all the way up there for it, and she suggested I go. I asked L if she'd be my date, and she happily accepted, with the caveat that we can't stay at her place, as she has a...

Loving this thread. I'm an anthropology nerd, so this is something I've spent plenty of time discussing and reading about. I too think it has to do with property. If you look into the history of marriage, it basically all comes down to property rights in agricultural societies at its very root...

...from such previous threads as: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3675 and http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4446 To the current situation, which I'm about to share with you We have all, as a family, moved back to the West Coast. We took the drive together, my...

Yeah, pretty much. Either Scott is gay for Rocky (not that there's anything wrong with that), and this makes him jealous, or he's got serious issues. It's not his place to decide who Rocky is with, or why. Time to get over it and be a good friend. If he has concerns, sure, voice them, and then...

Perhaps not directly, but I'd argue that circumstances may imply intent.

Red - I don't think this is open cheating... We're talking about one other person here, who he's been involved with since meeting her, and he hasn't hidden anything about their relationship. They met at a "kinky camping" event - isn't meeting potential partners to be expected? I think you're...