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What is the intention once the baby is born? You say this is a full-blown triad. Do all three of you intend to share parenting responsibility with the baby? If so, then they definitely need to back off on the sex and help you as much as they can. If not, you'll become resentful, and even...

I'm sorry you're hurting. I know dealing with NRE sucks sometimes, and the envy/jealousy you're feeling is very normal. Almost everyone here has had to deal with it, and it's often not easy during the NRE phase. Have faith that it will subside. In the meantime, some honest and frank...

Well, last night was a confusing night. When W got home, she was all weepy and huggy and saying she didn't know what to do, that she's never going to be happy. I told her I had been working on a plan where she would move out and see the girls no more than once/week. She cried and cried and...

Well, it seems W talked to both L and Bob, and they both were very apologetic for wanting to do the trip, and cancelled. Bob told W he is unsure he wants to be with her anymore. I haven't even spoken with him, but it seems he is starting to realize the damage this is doing to our relationship...

Well, after a somewhat productive counseling session last night, it all went to hell in a handbasket around 11:00pm. First, a little background. Last week W asked if she could go to an "event" in Charlotte with her guy (I'm going to start calling him Bob) and a couple that are "friends of...

I forgot to add that during her rant at me this weekend, her parents were there, and she was yelling loud enough that her step-mom heard her, because she asked me if everything was alright between us, and said she'd heard W yelling at me. At one point, she actually told me when her parents...

She feels that taking it "evens her out" too much. She thinks taking it is tantamount to admitting she's "broken" and that she should be allowed her emotions as is, and that everyone else should just deal with it. Last night she confronted me after I had stepped out of the shower, and for 30...

The first 10 years of our marriage, she seemed fine. When the girls were born, she was hit with a really bad depression, and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. She started taking Zoloft, which seemed to help. But eventually she went off the drug, and her behavior towards me starting taking a...

I think it's clear that your gut is telling you this woman will cause problems. Now, whether that is the case or not, I think in any kind of relationship like this all parties need to comfortable with the others involved. You and BF may want to have some clear, honest communications about the...

You may want to give it another six or twelve months. 7 months is still within the red zone for NRE, and it may be affecting your outlook. You can always revisit these questions then. You are confusing me a little. You say you think you would choose Jason if forced to choose a father for...

I read your post twice, and I'm still not sure I understand all the dynamics. But suffice it to say this seems to be a mess of jealousy, insecurities, and heartache all the way around. Perhaps it would be best for you and Gaz to get away from this couple totally, and concentrate on other, more...

A lot of her brain has shut off due to the NRE, and her bipolar issues. (Maybe narcissistic personality disorder. This has not been formally diagnosed. I just see the signs.) The parts of the brain dealing with common sense and basic human dignity and civility, for instance.

I feel your frustration. I'm sure it's a common theme amongst secondaries. But the bottom line is the primary relationship determines most of the ground rules, and it's up to you whether to accept them, negotiate new ones, or leave the relationship. It sounds like you've done quite a bit of...

If you look at the ACA website there is a lot of information about it. But those studies are not well supported, according to the AMA. So, in other words, fans of chiropractic are likely to believe in it, while those who are not are not likely to be swayed. I don't think it will harm them...

They just turned 5. I have no conviction at all about the benefits of chiropractic, except the knowledge that there's still a lot of debate about such. I have vague memories of being adjusted when I was young, and I have no idea why. My mother is gone and my dad doesn't remember. I haven't had...

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Could be all three, really. Many people get past this through a lot of time, research, and communication with all the parties involved. Some people never do. I encourage you to be very open and honest with your wife about your feelings. Don't be afraid to voice them, and try to create an...

Well, I finally mustered the courage to ask for a specific date, and we had dinner last night. It was so much fun! She laughed and smiled, dressed nicely, and showed me a little cleavage. She asked lots of questions about our lifestyle, and even told me she had been doing some research. She...

I'm sorry he lied and led you into this. He should have been upfront about his intentions with you once you guys become serious. It sounds from your post that you're not interested in sharing his love, and that's OK, and you were honest with him about it. If he says his other relationships...