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Sage, I have loved reading your thread. It is great in-depth discussion about poly vs. mono and how we feel about the different points we are all at. The latest seems to be about coming out. DH and I have decided not to come out. It would never work in our family and among our friends. His...

Sage, First of all let me say thank you for following my blog. Second, I don't know if you have read the very beginning of it all. It hasn't all been acceptance and happiness. It has been a very long and painful journey. somethings have even been so painful and private that only certain people...

Feeling good Last night DH, J and I spent the evening curled up on her couch just cuddling and enjoying each other's company. Eventually we made our way out to her porch to enjoy the night air...and mosquitos, lol. Gotta love summer! It felt so great. It was so comfortable. As we were sitting...

What is the best definition of a V vs a triad relationship? The more in-depth, the better, please.

Updating Here are some updates on our little group here. First my training is coming along nicely. I have pinpointed my swimming as my weak point in the triathlon but with some hard work I can hopefully pull through on that one. Any pointers there are welcome! J, her DH (we will call him M...

Just Here Nothing much to update. Its been a long week and I can only hope things get better from here. My training is coming along quite nicely. J, her DH, my DH and me all seem to be getting along with each other rather well at the moment. Fathers Day was great for DH and our daughter. The...

The training is going great. I just did my first combo in training the other day. A half hour run followed by 45 minutes of riding around town on my bike. And when you live in WV there are hills everywhere! So my legs were dead. And of course I have to walk around town to get to and from work...

Insecurities come and go when you least expect them. And sometimes there isn't any particular trigger. You can be driving down the road sometime and they just hit you out o nowhere. It is about recognizing them and working through them in your own way before they spiral out of control. KT I...

Baby Steps First of all - MG - J is doing well. Very well from the looks of things and was surprised to see you asking about her. Thank you for your concern. Ok on to the latest updates. It has been an interesting couple of days so bear with me. Last night J and her husband invited DH and me...

On a good path this week So life is pretty good at the moment. DH and I seem to be getting well this week. I have been able to talk myself down off of some insecure moments. Reminding myself that when he talks to me about his poly life it isn't about it being a threat to me. He is just trying...

Been there, done that Hey Mo, Before DH and J went their own way with things we did the whole threesome thing. Little did I know there were some sexual exchanges with them that did not include me at the time as well. As far as I know it was nothing physical but there were some emails that I...

Why is it that when I am near him I am fine. Life is great and I am in complete bliss. But if he isn't within arms reach, even just to go to work I get worked up and insecure and question everything possible out there. Why can't I just be better at holding onto the good feelings instead of my...

Things are looking up again Ok latest update. It took things coming to an all out fight this weekend but we are finally on good terms again around here. All the tension and hurt feelings and stubborness blew up on Friday. We had a huge fight just yelling at each other about random things from...

what am i suppose to do now Some more of my worst fears are coming true. DH just can't seem to get past his break up and I don't know what to do. I hold him at night. I let him cry. I listen as he tells me about the hole in his life and he doesn't understand why. He has no desire for sex. Our...

Training is still going well. I am hitting a Zumba class tonight for a bit of a break. I had some hard struggles this weekend but DH and I have worked through them and I am getting back to where I need to be. As long as I know that he continues to hold me at night I will be ok and happy...

KT Thank you for this. I think I need to sit down and do this myself. I think it would help with my own struggles in all of this. Thank you so much!

I am starting my training this week. I am two days into it and feel great and clear in the head afterwards. I am feeling a little insecure this week and am working through it one thing at a time. Its been hard but I am learning to accept my feelings as my own and understand I need to work...

Tomorrow we are taking our daughter and hitting the waters with Kayaking and picnicking before I start training for my triathlon. Sunday DH is going to his brother's place for the night. I am a little nervous about it because this was the place that alot of the bad stuff in our marriage...

Leslie, Let's be honest. That weekend, no matter how much you prepare will be nerve wracking and nail biting. Not to say you can't prepare. That is so important to do. But it will be new and stressful. The ways you can prepare is to talk every day. Ask every question. Be very openly and...

The things I have learned as the mono I thought I would chime in on what I have learned as a mono in the poly world, if it is ok with the rest of you. 1. There is a whole world out there ready to be explored. Things can not be simply explained by the black and white morals and conduct that a...