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Cheating is near impossible to get over. It can be done. It can be forgiven, in time, lots of time, but it won't be forgotten. Because if it ever happens again, then that first time will be dredged up. It will remind you that you already forgave. I found out about all of them at once for me. I...

Look at this, I made it back on tonight. Maybe it is from the stress of the past weekend but I am waivering a little tonight. But I just keep reminding myself he does love me. He is coming home to me. I am enough. There is nothing wrong with me. He hasn't lied to me or hidden tonight from me. He...

Another Night Hey everyone, So this is the night this week that DH is going over to J's. I don't know if he will be going over another night. J's husband has asked that there be no more than two nights a week. Which has never been a problem. I am off to a church dinner tonight. And since I am...

MG, this is a wonderful offer but I think I get where KT is coming from on this. While she has you as a friend and might feel she can come to you with a problem it just isn't quite the same as leaning on the shoulder of a man you are in love with. What I think she is tryinng to say is you are in...

The story of J and AK Let me tell you the story of J and me. Maybe that will help. J and DH work together. And well before I found out about them or she and I were friends DH met her and hung out with her as friends. We had often talked about threesomes and talked about having her as one of...

Mohegan, I really urge you to look up my name under the search section and read pretty much all of my posts starting from the very beginning. You will find I have said these exact same things. Also you need to look into the website. www.xeromag.com this will help you understand polyamory and it...

I've been there Mohegan, I've been in your shoes. My husband has cheated multiple times. The hurt was deep and still lingers. When he met J, he fell in love with her. That was what made this time different from the others. They had an affair before I found out as well. Although, they have both...

I'm back and Ready to Talk Hey there everyone. Sorry to make you worry. If you are willing to bear with me this will be a long post full of explanations and updates. The week has been good. I had so many break throughs as you all well know. I am still very strong in those findings. Nothing has...

I think I'm going to throw up. Not handling things too well. Last nite was too soon, why did I insist just because of the progress I have made this week. No matter what I say no one will believe I am ok with the comforting. I wouldn't have been ok without it. I only wish the couch had been big...

I'm sorry. I went too far tonite and hurt people physically, emotionally and in every sense of the word. I can't do that. I will never punish in any way again to anyone or let myself hurt u, matt or charles in any way again.

lost Tonight was suppose to be wonderful. But I pushed too hard. I hurt so many people I care about. And I fear I have lost everything. Compersion can't fix everything and sometimes it just doesn't matter at all when u are using it and it works and yet people still get hurt. To dh and j, I'm...

I have to say that omission is lying for the most part. It depends on what you are leaving out. If you know the part you are leaving out will affect the outome then it is not an honest outcome because the person you are telling does not have all the facts and therefore makes an unfair judgement...

Digging a little Deeper I was discussing with J today the "rule" that I had lifted this past weekend about giving me a good advance notice before DH goes over. She was trying to stick with that rule anyways and as I was explaining things to her I realized something. I realized why I needed that...

And I agree. If you ever feel ready to make a step towards spending time with C try going out and doing somethng that maybe doesn't require talking such as a movie or a concert of some sort. That way maybe conversation if it happens, comes gradually from what you are watching. Just a thought...

Welcome aboard. I use labels with my own husband right now. I am a mono, he is poly with a gf. His gf and I are friends as well. She is poly as is her husband. And we all are fully aware of who is pimary and secondary in all of these relationships. I would say first of all to conquer the...

wOW wELCOME! Looks like we have the whole crew here now! Looking forward to the input.

Amen to this. Amen. For this part, all I have to say is give it time. Continue to stay patient with her. She is hurting. She believes in you enough to stick it out. But you now have to go at this at her pace. We all do it differently. I was in your gf's shoes. You'd have to read my blog over...

It feels very good More developments today folks. J and I are working towards more progress. I am trying to understand some things about her. I have a couple of questions in my mind I need to remember to ask her tomorrow. I have been rereading my posts since this whole thing has started. Wow...

Merging into compersion With all the talking about compersion lately I sat down to some serious self evaluation this weekend. Originally, when DH and I started with this poly lifestyle about three months ago I put out a bunch of rules so that I could feel safe and secure. I mentioned this on a...

Does your pastor do counseling? I know some do and they do it for either a low cost or free. Maybe you should look into that. It would give you marital and spiritual guidance as you look into the poly lifestyle.