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First, you're a guy so get used to rejection. It happens. Dating is kind of a numbers game. Keep at it and eventually you'll find somebody who suits you. In the meantime, do what you can to improve your looks and posture, broaden your social networks, and practice your flirting (i.e. talk to...

I'm assuming that you both are attempting to meet somebody online? My guess is that most guys will think this is too good to be true and, therefore, this must be some kind of scam. Just my 2 cents. -Wolf

My advice? The other relationships of your wife's secondaries should not really be your concern. Let your wife figure out for herself how she feels about them. Getting involved will not have any positive outcomes. Here's what you need to be focusing on: yourself. Work out, develop more of...

I also have much, much better experiences when my girlfriend is with me and involved in the flirting/socializing. The whole process is so much easier when you meet potentials as a couple. -Wolf

I recommend traditional dating methods: meet lots of people (via online, nightlife, social circle, etc), flirt with them, inform them that you are poly and not remotely interested in a mono-relationship, and then keep the ones that stick around. It really doesn't need to be more complicated...

Nevermind, sent you a PM

The BEST and easiest way to meet like minded people is to pick them up in everyday life, as a couple. Flirt with them, take them home, sleep with them, show them a good time and they will come back for more. This will always be way, way more effective than online profiles.. especially for...

Well, it sounds like your husband has been fairly good at forecasting his actions and expectations. Up until now, you've been ignoring this rather than dealing with it. Granted, I KNOW NRE is hard to handle. However, there are certain things you can do to make this easier on yourself...

Hey guys, yeah, the swinger scene isn't the best in Madison. I know from experience. Online is an okay option. Here are the variety of ways we've met other partners. - Strictly platonic section of CL (my girlfriend had just moved to Milwaukee and was looking for female friends) - Madison's...

In response to your post: First, you might want to try posting this at sedfast.com in the poly forum. I think you'd get enlightening responses. Okay, here are the messages your wife is sending, if you read between the lines: "Honest and full disclosure will be punished. I am feeling...

That's great! May I ask you for some details about those relationships? Mainly, (1) how did you meet those women and (2) how/when did you tell them about your primary? Oh, and were you married and/or living with your primary at the time? /In my humble opinion, sexual energy exchange between...

My apologies if I took your comment out of it's proper context. Incidentally, the lie Ciel was referring to involved a guy who marked himself as single on an online dating profile. I think that is a somewhat forgivable sin. If I were married, then I would probably not mention it on an...

I thought I was clear in my earlier comment, but apparently not. I don't lie, I strongly imply that I am seeing other people, and I answer questions honestly. However, I'm cautious about how much information I put on a public profile and about how much information I volunteer to a person when...

Well, to be fair to the guy, his method is effective.. especially if the girl has no experience with polyamory. That's partially the reason I started this thread. I wanted to hear stories of single girls (with no poly history) who met poly-guys (who have primaries) and dated them, knowing they...

Nyc, it's actually not a particularly easy subject to search for. I have read most of the posts in the "Other Threads Worth Reading", cannot recall seeing a topic like this. I'm sure I could read through the many, many first person accounts of relationships on this site looking for the details...

@Meera - To be clear, I never lie and I strongly imply I am seeing other people on first dates. However, I don't volunteer more information then that unless a girl asks. Mostly they ask for details by the second date, so it's rarely even an issue. The main reason I don't make a point to tell...

Okay, my main question is, "at what point did your SO tell you about his primary poly relationship?" My primary-girlfriend (Kemie) and I have differing opinions on when it is proper to discuss this. I don't always feel the need to share intimate details of my private life on a first date with...

Okay, philosophical argument is all about words and their meaning. Polyamory could be considered against "accepted principals of right and wrong behavior" (the definition of morals). Morality falls back on tradition and, often, the religious principals of the majority. Therefore, polyamory...