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Im really sorry. I also know there's a big difference between wanting to meet a metamour, and being willing to exchange an email or two. Being shut down totally would lead to more discomfort than I would want to deal with. I think I'd feel like a non-entity :(. If C is not going to become...

Bowling went well and I wasn't too nervous - I keep forgetting that that Adam and Greg have been hanging out a bit independently of me, and that was odd, since they don't sit around and tell me what they chat about - that means I don't have to play "hostess" so much. It's been getting close to...

You said in the post before this "Am I wrong in taking this to a level where it's between me and her? Should he do something instead?" No (obviously I think that or I wouldn't have said what I said), and Yes - but it seems to be getting clearer he wont so the ball is in your court. Its...

I'm really sorry about your Dad *hug* I know I would want to figure this thing out with Molly sooner than later - I would not be OK with somebody saying they wanted to display photos of me but couldn't because their other partner would see them, especially because its about HIS discomfort...

I'm guessing it's started/starting by now, but if you go to the CSPC again and have questions, I'd suggest posting on fetlife's group for it, where you'll be much more likely to find local people who've been to the particular event you're curious about to answer quickly (they have so many damn...

I think its just the same as getting over any breakup, except you have to make sure to not lean too heavily on other partners unless they are ok with it, and up for the task. I'd just say google "getting through a breakup" and read a few articles, there's a bit to glean from each one that...

Sometimes I've felt like being with a partner as soon as a couple hours after they've been with somebody else. Sometimes I haven't, and that's usually due to if my relationships needs with them are being met, how well we've been getting along, and my comfort level with the metamour in question...

Why is it you feel he was wrong? Just how he went all ruleNazi and wasn't graceful about it when challenged? I imagine you've said even though he was right you didn't appreciate the way he made something you think wasn't a big deal a big deal. You don't have to choose to be in the middle anymore...

I was wondering if you'd gone to therapy with your husband. If you two are not on the same page exactly (it sounds like he struggles with it so you do too) you might have trouble expressing things firmly and positively. Have you practiced and read about positive arguments for why poly is...

I'd just keep focusing on what you do want and need - if you aren't sure, ask if she is willing to experiment with you figuring out your desires around contact frequency, reassurance, and whatever else you are looking for from her. Me? This is the minimum I think I need with somebody I don't...

What she said...also if any of you break up ever, it will sour the anniversary of the remaining people's celebration. Even though my ex and I had a pretty good divorce, we got married on New years, and since it's a memorable and important day of the year (much like your original wedding date is...

Well this week could be going better - I was having a nice date with Brian when he found out his other partner's parent had died, so we finished dinner and he went to go support them. next day I was getting ready to go see Greg when he got news that one of his partners was headed to the ER...

Don't expect words of wisdom here since I've had some wine, but I wanted to empathize with you. You sound a lot like me in the "information is important" department. A month ago I found out that my husband had been keeping stuff from me, and then lied about a couple of things. This has made...

I am so glad the conversation went so well, I hope he is willing to keep on the path he is with working on being comfortable talking about things. I've seen so many situations be worse than they have to when the hinge was assuming their partners wouldn't be OK with things/information so they...

Harborman has a great idea. There have been a couple times for me that hard or awkward-to-have conversations about ongoing issues have become easier to get the answers from my partner either by using instant messaging, and letting them take their time to answer without the stress of me sitting...

That's a really shitty situation. For me personally, if somebody came and asked my partner to leave me for them and they were interested in having them in their lives after that whether dating or not, I think I'd be ending that relationship. One of the problems is here that his ex seems to be...

I second the couples counseling suggestion. Maybe she would find it easier to answer questions from a neutral party. Maybe a counselor could help sort out what questions are the important ones. And if you can hear her answers to those, all the other things you want to know she isn't sharing will...

I've just been catching up on any blogs I like to read, interesting developments for you I missed on reading about last month. I'm glad to see how much fun you have when your husband teases you :)

:rolleyes: Sheesh DH, no I said I thought I must be doing something wrong because I COULD still walk. And I didn't need to get a silk robe, I made my own robe of course. No please don't call me Homemade Hef now. One thing it taught me is that I'd enjoy trying two nights away with my non...

MeeraReed's points about ED gave me some stuff to gnaw on too. I also have to say that I keep wondering what your hobby blog is about, can't help it... I follow some blogs in my hobby that are in english and the persons native language, sigh. Must want more poly fellow bloggers... I am...