Search results

No, y'all are pretty good. Good to have friends here. :D:cool:

Dear MonoVCPHG, Yes, I thought of some of this too and agree. A lot of this business has me stumped. It's very personal to the folks involved, and nearly any input one might give them could be wrong. Mono Wife's situation seems to say urgent, though, or at least help me. And who doesn't need...

ak2381, you've been a member here longer than I have and it's really possible that you know more about the subject of polyamory than I do. Please excuse me for rushing in as a fool where angels fear to tread. Surely you have by now thought about taking a lover of your own? Something out in the...

Ariakas is very right, Matilda. The problem here is that you and your husband are, of course, unique individuals, and have made a unique marriage, just like all marriages. Since that's so an outsider can help you only so much. What Ariakas is talking about - and what you've been talking about -...

Well, you have a lot of interesting relationship going on. A thought that strikes my mind is the expression "the two shall become one." In other words, when you marry in many real senses you become two halves of one person, yet each a complete person as well. I know that sounds very old...

Matilda, the boat metaphor can only be taken so far. The reason your husband is now acting like this possibly is because you've given off new indications that you're feeling independent and want to cut loose from him. I think getting away from him for a while is a good idea. For once let him...

This is a thread that could go on and on. Seems like marriage isn't about how many people are tying the knot, officially or no. It's about commitment and what your heart says about someone. I'll be up front here - that's an expression from my generation and I don't mind dating myself. I feel...

Well, in that case, Autumnal Tone, come fly away wiz me to zee Kasbah. I weel pate your de foie gras, I weel crepe your suzette, I weel vichy in your soisse, I weel cause your cherries to sing zee jubilee.........:):D Unless you're a guy, :eek: 'cause I'm really straight and needs must bow out...

Aaah, sooo........Ariakas, is Autumnal Tone your wife? If the question is out of line just say so, and please excuse me if I accidentally crossed a line. :)

well, yes, 'intellectual badass' would be hard to beat. the shark thing isn't bad at all, but a little intimidating, all those teeth. some folks like being eaten alive. me? it depends on who's doing the eating. *small sly smile*

You know Finian's Rainbow? There's a person left alive that watches musicals?? OMG. I don't suppose you're female, are you? That would be too much to ask.

ok.....what is the burning man subculture?

Ah, possibly a Great White Nerd? Anything I can do to promote communication and to help. :D

Hi, Autumnal Tone! What is a burner? You mean the cell phone?

May I suggest "Your Song," originally recorded by Elton John? It's old-fashioned I admit, but super romantic.

Thank you, Ariakas, but it wouldn't surprise me if I were older than any of you. At present I'm mono, and may stay that way in terms of having an open, above board relationship. I very much like the lifestyle, but may not embrace it until another time. I envy you folks. You look to me to be...

I go by catbird, and have posted one thread already. The seniors here have been very nice and given great advice. Hugs to everyone.

Thank you Ariakas! I went to the site you gave me, read and printed it to put in the book. You know, when I first looked at this site it was in terms of flirting, not research, but I like to research too, I guess, or I wouldn't have so damn many books. ;D

Thanks, Ariakas. There is a book, The Five Love Languages. I got it just this morning. I don't know if it's any good, just barely started it. :confused: Hope things go well in your neck of the woods!?! :D:D:D

Thank you, phoenix. I hope things work out for us too, and it starts to look like they might. We had a heart to heart just yesterday, and talked about how she had a rather rational personality, was sometimes distant, and how I was often pretty passionate about a lot of different things, and I...